“Narcissists are consistently inconsistent this keeps the victim living in cognitive
dissonance”
“AGING WITH A NARCISSIST You thought you would grow old together, travel the
world, and be there in sickness as you age. A narcissists sense of entitlement
destroys this promise, they will abandon you for greener pasture.”
“Narcissists use jealousy to control you. They flirt in front of you and when you ask
about it, you become the jealous one. They get jealous and accuse you of things
you aren't doing. They also get jealous of the closeness of your friends and family,
so they gaslight you into isolating yourself from them.”
“And that's why if we love in dunya with our hearts, it breaks us. That's why this dunya hurts. It is because the definition of dunya, as something temporary and imperfect, goes against everything we are made to yearn for.”
Source: Reclaim Your Heart: Personal Insights on Breaking Free from Life's Shackles
“Emotional pain warns us that we need to make an internal change.”
Source: Reclaim Your Heart: Personal Insights on Breaking Free from Life's Shackles
“And pain is a pointer to our attachments. That which makes us cry, that which causes us the most pain is where our false attachment lie.”
Source: Reclaim Your Heart: Personal Insights on Breaking Free from Life's Shackles
“I was expecting this life to be what it is not, and was never meant to be: perfect. And being the idealistic that I am, I was struggling with every cell in my body to make it so. It had to be perfect. And I would not stop until it was. I gave my blood, sweat, and tears to this endeavor: making the dunya into jannah.”
Source: Reclaim Your Heart: Personal Insights on Breaking Free from Life's Shackles
“If our inner state is dependent on something changing and temporary, that inner state will be in a constant state of instability, agitation, and unrest. This means that one moment we're happy, but as soon as that which our happiness depended upon changes, our happiness also changes.”
Source: Reclaim Your Heart: Personal Insights on Breaking Free from Life's Shackles
“We experience this emotional roller coaster because we can never find stability and lasting peace until our attachment and dependency is on what is stable and lasting.”
Source: Reclaim Your Heart: Personal Insights on Breaking Free from Life's Shackles
“The truth is, these disturbers of our peace have always been friends, strange though it may sound. Their origins were protective and beneficent and that remains their current aim, even when they seem to go about it in a misguided way.”
Source: The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture