Tracy A. Malone Biography & Quotes

Source: Divorcing Your Narcissist: You Can't Make This Shit Up!

“A lie only has power until the light of truth exposes it.”

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“Friends are the family that had other mothers. To really live a fulfilled life, hold your friends close and do the work to stay connected.”

Healing Friends Fulfillment Narcissism Ptsd Narcissist Abuse

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“You don't know if you have been denied heaven or spared from hell.”

Evil Lies Breaking Up Narcissist Abuse Narc

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“You are being abused if you find yourself apologizing when you didn't do anything.”

Survival Lies Abuse Apologizing Gaslighting

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“It starts with a lie. Each day the lies amplify. Time goes by, the lies turn to gaslighting. Eventually the lies become smears about you.”

Lies Abuse Gaslighting Smears

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“You know that unforgivable lie they tell about you. You may struggle with this one because you know, they know the truth. You are a good parent, but the lie must be implanted for them to win. It's a strategy and they don't care what it does to you or the kids because they have no empathy. It comes down to, they simply do not care about anyone but themselves. They must win.”

Lying Lies Abuse Abusive Narcissists

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“A hellish place to be. No one believes you. You were broken, smeared, and lied about.”

Lies Abuse Survivor Bullshit Narcissistic Surthriver

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“A narcissist will spread lies about you to anyone that will listen. The more they tell their own victim story about "their abuse" at your hands, the more power and control they feel. They craft the lie tales mixing a nugget of half truths to make them more believable.”

Power Lies Abuse Control Narcissist

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“Just like ice cream narcissists come in all flavors and no two are the same. It may be easy for you to recognize the flavor you had, but perhaps a covert would slip by. What flavor was your narcissist?”

Lies Abuse Narcissist Masks Stealth

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“Narcissistic Lies - In the eyes of a narcissist they do nothing wrong and they are always the victim. So the stories they create (the lies) are what they actually believe. Tracy A. Malone.”

Stories Lies Fake Narcissistic Narcissist

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“Honesty is better than sugar coated bullshit.”

Lying Lies Narcissistic Abusive Narcissist Abuse

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“Actions really are louder than words, judge everyone by their ability to be as good as her/his word. Give a second chance once.”

Growth Healing Support Lies Words Narcissism Narcissist Abuse

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“If I promise to miss you, do you promise to go away?”

Relationship Divorce Breakup Narcissism Narcissist Narcissistic Abuse

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“A MASK OF LIES IS BUILT TO TRAP YOU. TOO MANY THINGS IN COMMON SHOULD RAISE RED FLAGS, UNTIL COMMONALITIES ARE PROVEN.”

Abuse Dating Survivor Narcissism Ptsd Narcissistic Narcissistic Abuse

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“THE TRUTH IS NARCISSISTS ARE VERY SMALL INSIGNIFICANT HUMANS. THEY HAVE NOTHING TO GIVE TO THE WORLD SO THEY DESTROY OTHERS TO MAKE THEMSELVES SEEM IMPORTANT.”

Abuse Dating Survivor Narcissism Ptsd Narcissistic Narcissistic Abuse

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“The ruminating thoughts often haunt victims at night. You are haunted by the "what happened", "how could they do this to me", "who does this?" thoughts. One day, these thoughts will subside and the fear will lift.”

Abuse Dating Survivor Narcissism Ptsd Narcissistic Narcissistic Abuse

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“VICTIMS OF NARCISSISTIC ABUSE GET BEAT UP EMOTIONALLY AND OFTEN PHYSICALLY. THEIR VOICE IS SILENCED AND THEY LOSE THEMSELVES. YOUR JOB IS TO GET FREE, DO THE WORK TO HEAL AND NEVER LOOK BACK.”

Abuse Dating Survivor Narcissism Ptsd Narcissistic Narcissistic Abuse

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“Every problem you face is an opportunity to learn something. The biggest lessons in your life have been learned from the darkest days.”

Growth Healing Learning Growing Abuse Narcissism New Life

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“BOUNDARIES STEP ONE - set a boundary, what do you not want to hear, see, or do. STEP TWO-decide limits - what you will and will not tolerate STEP THREE - pay attention to people's reactions, if your boundaries make someone mad, then that person is abusing you. LESSON - someone that loves you would never hurt you, PERIOD! Learn this and self-love and you will be ok. @tracyAMalone”

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“Many survivors get so angry that they find themselves dropping the f-bomb all the time, even when they never swore in their lives. This expression of unfamiliar anger is quite healthy, it's okay to be fucking angry! Just make your way out by healing the wounds.”

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“We were always taught to never play with fire... Why weren't we warned about a more likely meeting of a narcissist? This job now falls to victims to educate the world. Spread the word and save a soul.”

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“Have you ever noticed that a narcissist could do terrible things to you and by morning it's as if nothing happened. This is so confusing to the victim experiencing these 180 behaviors. It's grooming you that are required to forgive and forget and never discuss it again. In contrast if you do something to offend them, they become hyper focused and never let you forget.”

Psychology Manipulation Narcissism Narcissistic Sociopath Narcissism Expert Npd Narcissists Cruel

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“The narcissistic poison. Believe again and learn to trust again because if you don't the poison worked.”

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“Narcissists can get physical! Many people don't understand that control can look many different ways. Not all narcissists go in this direction, but those that use physical threats will always use it as their control tool.”

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“Cheating always repeats. The entitlement of a narcissist to cheat without conscience is their choice. Your choice is to run and file for divorce!”

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“Narcissists are blamers, they are not capable of taking responsibility. At first you know it is not your fault, over time you get exhausted from trying to explain your innocence and you surrender to the lies, just to keep the peace.”

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“Children who experience narcissistic parents’ rage and disapproval hold that feeling of 'not good enough’ which makes them vulnerable to repeating abuse patterns.”

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“People pleasing is really fearing people’s reactions, rejection or abandonment.”

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“Narcissists are consistently inconsistent this keeps the victim living in cognitive dissonance”

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“AGING WITH A NARCISSIST You thought you would grow old together, travel the world, and be there in sickness as you age. A narcissists sense of entitlement destroys this promise, they will abandon you for greener pasture.”

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“Narcissists use jealousy to control you. They flirt in front of you and when you ask about it, you become the jealous one. They get jealous and accuse you of things you aren't doing. They also get jealous of the closeness of your friends and family, so they gaslight you into isolating yourself from them.”

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“In narcissistic abuse recovery you will raise your awareness of bad behavior. You will see people’s actions through a lens of protection and no longer tolerate drama and lower vibrational energy vampires. Of course knowing red flags is important but tapping into and listening to how someone makes you feel, is the key to happiness. A drama free zone must be the protection you deploy. If someone causes you to run to others to try to understand their behaviors, this relationship is not healthy for you. We need no labels, we need no proof they are a narcissist, you need to listen to your gut, and you need courage to walk away. No drama equals peace. Drama equals confusion, sadness, and fear.”

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“The silent treatment is a deafening and cruel abuse tactic”

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“Narcissistic Abuse it's always your fault. Victims internalize "I am never good enough.”

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“Narcissists reward loyalty, on their side, oh golden one.... You think you are safe. The truth is they will quickly discard your ass and flip your golden role to scapegoat. This is the illusion of loyalty.”

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“One day you may get angry at yourself. Angry for staying, angry for allowing bad behavior without a stronger fight, and angry for not knowing exactly what this was. Getting angry at yourself is a stage you must go through as you look for answers. Anger propels change, without anger victims stay or allow them back. Your goal should be to move through the anger and not stay in anger too long.”

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“LOVEBOMBING WAS SWEET... IT WAS EVERYTHING AFTER THAT THAT SUCKED.”

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“HEARING THE NARCISSIST IN YOUR HEAD The voices, the words, and the devaluing messages will haunt you. At first you may hear the good promises or things they said that were seemingly loving. You cling, wishing they were true again. These messages are holding you to them. Other times the internal messages become haunting words. 'You are no good', 'you can't do anything right', 'you are not good enough'. These messages internalize as truths until we heal and accept the truth. They were lying to keep you controlled.”

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“Narcissistic abuse rips your heart out in so many ways. First because of the time spent, then the discard and battle of lies. Sadly, to see the damage they caused your children”

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“True recovery happens when you get to the stage of understanding you ‘were’ angry, but today you ‘choose’ to not let anger steal another minute.”

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“A narcissist’s goal is to keep you small. Limiting your financial access to your own money is a favorite tactic. Your goal is to learn your rights and take back your power. Feeling small is common for victims until they realize this is just another narcissistic lie.”

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“Creating a new story after narcissistic abuse. You are not being delusional and making up alternate truths, you are choosing which parts of the story you want to hold onto. Holding onto the painful bits keep you trapped in yesterday. By letting go of the pain, you open your heart to a new tomorrow.”

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“Narcissists who cheat do leave signs if we are looking. New clothes, change in appearance, sudden interest in gym. Locked phones, more time away, phone calls or texts that they leave the room for.”

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“Poison can present in a pretty bottle narcissistic abuse can also present in a pretty bottle beware of something being too good to be true.”

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“The scapegoat of a narcissistic parent is never safe. Situations are created by the narcissistic parent to blame the child for things they never did. Much of their lives is pushing back against the lies. The child internalizes that they can't do anything right, some fight back, others surrender and give up fighting.”

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“Narcissists specialize in guilt. They do something wrong; you ask to talk about it. They flip the script into you not loving them, not trusting them or being cruel like your mother. Then you end up feeling guilty!”

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“Narcissists can never hear you. You have no right to set a boundary, speak up or speak honestly. Once you are isolated from support, the resistance grows, leaving the victim confused and lost.”

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“Were you blamed for their cheating? They choose to cheat, they choose to hide it, they choose to lie. All of these are a sign of a selfish, lying cheat who is so weak to not take any responsibility for their actions. To prove themselves even lower than pond scum, they add insult to injury by blaming you! Unless you drove them on the date, this is not your fault. It's gaslighting. Run!”

Abuse Cheating Narcissist Gaslighting Lieing

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“The scars of abandonment linger, revealed in the fear of closeness, the craving for validation, and the haunting echo of 'I’m not enough'.”

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