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“Nur Monster zwangen Mädchen und Frauen dazu, wie menschliche Kartoffelsäcke herumzulaufen, und machten damit Schlagzeigen. Und diese Arschlöcher hatten es geschafft, das gesellschaftliche Klima für alle zu bestimmen. Mittlerweile fragte mich niemand, warum ich Kopftuch trug. Die Leute bildeten sich ein, die Antwort zu kennen, obwohl die meisten komplett danebenlagen. Ich trug es nicht, weil ich eine Nonne sein wollte, sondern weil ich mich damit geborgen fühlte – weniger verwundbar. Für mich war es eine Art Rüstung. Ich trug das Kopftuch, weil ich es tragen wollte und ganz bestimmt nicht, um züchtig auszusehen, nur weil irgendwelche Idioten es nicht schafften, ihren Schwanz in der Hose zu behalten.”

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A Very Large Expanse of Sea

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Tahereh Mafi

Tahereh Mafi is an Iranian-American author born in 1988. Her works are acclaimed for their unique narrative style and profound insight into the psychology of teenagers. Mafi's debut novel, 'The Revenant,' is a coming-of-age story that delves into themes of family, identity, and self-discovery. more

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“The unconscious always tries to produce an impossible situation in order to force the individual to bring out his very best. Otherwise one stops short of one's best, one is not complete, one does not realize oneself. What is needed is an impossible situation where one has to renounce one's own will and one's own wit and do nothing but wait and trust to the impersonal power of growth and development.”

“A friend asked, "If increased awareness means less happiness, why bother?" No answer. Three or four nights later I had a dream. I was driving. To my right I saw baby cranes — blue-green, all legs, beak, and wings — standing in a field. They took off and crashed, took off and crashed. I stopped the car and got out. "That looks like it hurts. Why do you do it?" One of the cranes looked me square in the eye. "We may not fly very well yet, but at least we aren't walking." I awoke, happy. From that moment, there has been no turning back.”

“The unconscious no sooner touches us than we are it―we become unconscious of ourselves. That is the age-old danger, instinctively known and feared by primitive man, who himself stands so very close to this pleroma. His consciousness is still uncertain, wobbling on its feet. It is still childish, having just emerged from the primal waters. A wave of the unconscious may easily roll over it, and then he forgets who he was and does things that are strange to him. Hence primitives are afraid of uncontrolled emotions, because consciousness breaks down under them and gives way to possession. All man's strivings have therefore been directed towards the consolidation of consciousness. This was the purpose of rite and dogma; they were dams and walls to keep back the dangers of the unconscious, the "perils of the soul." Primitive rites consist accordingly in the exorcising of spirits, the lifting of spells, the averting of the evil omen, propitiation, purification, and the production by sympathetic magic of helpful occurrences.”

“Those who lack the ability to build relationships based on genuine human values and the strength of their own character often try to buy relationships by offering expensive gifts — even at the very beginning, when both people barely know each other. This is a clear red flag for a dignified girl or woman, prompting her to ask: Why is he giving such an expensive gift so early, before the relationship has even begun? Is he trying to buy my affection? or trying to impress by money. Why offer luxury before love, and expensive gifts before trust? Genuine relationships are built on values, respect, and character — not on material offerings. When someone gives an expensive gift too early, before there’s emotional depth or understanding, it often reflects not generosity, but insecurity or a subtle form of manipulation tactic.”

“I første del af analysen havde jeg erobret min krops sundhed og frihed. Nu skulle jeg, langsomt, i gang med at opdage min person. Det gik meget trægt i begyndelsen, for jeg var på vagt over for mig selv. Jeg frygtede at møde et menneske, hvis mangler og lyder, jeg ikke ville være i stand til at rumme. Jeg måtte foretage utallige togter ned i underbevidstheden for at blive overbevist om, at der var vildt og frit, men blottet for ondskab. Der var både godt og ondt i min bevidsthed, så var det op til mig at smede dem som det passede mig. Behandlingen var forbi, da jeg følte mig i stand til at påtage mig ansvar for mine tanker og handlinger, hvordan de end var.”