“Funny how another person's misfortune can make you realise what you have. We need to stop taking each other for granted. That's another thing nobody tells you about marriage; sometimes it's good, sometimes it's bad, doesn't mean it's over.”
“Marriage.
There ought to be a different word for it once you've been married for enough years. When you've long since passed the point where it stopped feeling like a choice. I no longer choose you every morning, that was a beautiful thing we said on our wedding day, I just can't imagine life without you now. We aren't freshly blooming flowers, we're two trees with intertwined roots, you've grown old within me.”
Source: The Winners
“She detested all this marriage talk. She would never understand why so many lasses wished to tie themselves down before they had a chance to live.”
Source: Fate Be Changed
“Edie?” I put the can opener down. “Can I ask you a personal question?”
“I’m your aunt! Shoot.” She kept chopping methodically.
“Why aren’t you married?”
“Well, why aren’t you married?” Her eyes narrowed. “Because I’m 15!” I retorted.
“Yeah, and I’m 42. And a half.”
Source: Voyage of the Sandpiper
“This had occurred due to these latter two persons deciding to marry one another and leave the profession. I have always found such liaisons a serious threat to the order in a house. Since that time, I have lost a numerous more employees in such circumstances.”
Source: The Remains of the Day
“If you are heartbroken right now, then I feel for you deeply,” Evelyn says. “That I have the utmost respect for. Thats the sort of thing that can split a person in two. But I wasn’t heartbroken when Don left me. I simply felt like my marriage had failed. And those are very different things.”
Source: The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo
“Contract Matrimony (The Sonnet)
When I fall, I fall wholly -
without a safety net of any kind.
Prenups are an insult of love,
all in fear of an imaginary night.
Contract lovers are worse
than contract killers,
at least contract killers
don't second guess their motive.
Either love or don't,
there's no second guessing -
either marry or don't,
there's no contract matrimony.
Prenups are for juveniles,
Clauses are for cowards.
To seek escape in commitment,
is an act of con, not love.
Escapists have no right to love,
Lovers have no need for escape.
When you change exes like socks,
It's a sickness, not a choice.”
Source: Dervis Vadisi: 100 Promissory Sonnets
“Escapists have no right to love, lovers have no need for escape.”
Source: Dervis Vadisi: 100 Promissory Sonnets
“From an emotional standpoint, the question is whether he is emotionally stable himself and whether he is capable of handling the emotional needs of more than one wife and set of children.”
Source: We Want for Our Sisters What We Want for Ourselves, Polygyny~Copartnering: A Relationship, Marriage and Family Alternative
“In 2006 the federal government expended more than $100 million over a five-year period for marriage and fatherhood education. Interestingly, it is not until recently that the United States is doing something that African peoples have been doing for thousands of years through rites of passage programs -- preparing young people for life and the challenges of marriage and family. Because U.S. society generally takes an interventive approach to marriage, where couples seek help after the marriage is in trouble, rather than a preventive proactive approach, where couples are prepared for the challenges of marriage, most people are not prepared for a monogamous marriage, let alone a polygynous one.”
Source: We Want for Our Sisters What We Want for Ourselves, Polygyny~Copartnering: A Relationship, Marriage and Family Alternative