“It’s satisfying to believe that our effort will translate into results, and in many areas of our lives it does. The one area it often does not is human relationships, and the one area it will never work is in a relationship. if you are expending so much effort and not achieving your goal (of pleasing your partner) then you must be doing something wrong or lacking something. Interestingly, most people don’t initially recognize that perhaps it is their partner who is unpleasable. Many people who have been through narcissistic relationships will say that they literally gave everything they had to the point they could not try anymore. This carries a tremendous toll for the giver, who will often give of themselves to the point of exhaustion, physical health problems, loss of friends and family, and even their own sense of self.” RelationshipsEffortMarriagePsychologyHealthManipulationEngagementNarcissismPartnerUnsatisfaction Book:Should I Stay or Should I Go?: Surviving a Relationship with a Narcissist Source: Should I Stay or Should I Go?: Surviving a Relationship with a Narcissist
“What does emerge is the importance of a right theory as to what constitutes happiness. In such important acts as choosing a career, a man is greatly influenced by theory. If a wrong theory prevails, successful men will be unhappy, but will not know why. This fills them with rage, which leads them to desire the slaughter of younger men, whom they envy unconsciously. Most modern politics, while nominally based on economics, is really due to rage caused by lack of instinctive satisfaction; and this lack, in turn, is largely due to false popular psychology.” HappinessPoliticsPsychologyEnvyFrustrationWrong ChoicesCareer ChoicesFalse TheoriesUnsatisfaction Book:Sceptical Essays Source: Sceptical Essays