“We can’t fight violence by blaming its victims. We are in a culture of victim blaming and victim shaming, where the wounded are questioned more than the ones who wounded them, because responsibility scares a society built on denial.” Victim BlamingVictim ShamingAttribution Bias Author:Carson Anekeya
“Blame is a Defense Against Powerlessness Betrayal trauma changes you. You have endured a life-altering shock, and are likely living with PTSD symptoms— hypervigilance, flashbacks and bewilderment—with broken trust, with the inability to cope with many situations, and with the complete shut down of parts of your mind, including your ability to focus and regulate your emotions. Nevertheless, if you are unable to recognize the higher purpose in your pain, to forgive and forget and move on, you clearly have chosen to be addicted to your pain and must enjoy playing the victim. And the worst is, we are only too ready to agree with this assessment! Trauma victims commonly blame themselves. Blaming oneself for the shame of being a victim is recognized by trauma specialists as a defense against the extreme powerlessness we feel in the wake of a traumatic event. Self-blame continues the illusion of control shock destroys, but prevents us from the necessary working through of the traumatic feelings and memories to heal and recover.” MemoriesEmotionsIllusionBlameMental HealthTraumaBetrayalMental IllnessShockControlPtsdPowerlessnessEmotional HealthVictimsVictimhoodTraumatic ExperiencesTraumatizedOut Of ControlVictimizationHigher PurposeVictim BlamingAffectPosttraumatic Stress DisorderBetrayal TraumaTraumaticSelf BlameTraumatic MemoriesHypervigilanceAffect RegulationPosttraumatic StressBetrayal BondTrauma VictimsBetrayal Trauma TheoryRegulate Emotions Author:Sandra Lee Dennis
“But I understand why we don’t want to hear it—because right now, it is the only way we know how to overcome the trauma we suffered. We refuse to see the reality because we need the power we get from being the victim; it is the only coping skill we know. We can only do what we know. And that is precisely why I chose to write this book. It is time we face our denial and learn another way.” RealityInspirational QuotesPowerVictimVictim Blaming Book:Your Journey To Success: How to Accept the Answers You Discover Along the Way Source: Your Journey To Success: How to Accept the Answers You Discover Along the Way