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“I create my own heartbreaks!”

Heartbreak Self Blame

Author:Shehrin Odri

“The reality is, no matter what you were told, whatever happened to you as a child was not legally or morally your fault. Abused children are instilled with guilt regarding their "participation." It's an especially complex issue if the abuser is a family member. The child is told and believes that by his word his family will disintegrate, or harm may descend upon other loved ones. He fears he will lose more by telling than not.”

Fear Silence Lies Shame Blame Guilt Breakup Child Abuse Child Sexual Abuse Pedophile Victim Blaming Self Blame Child Abuser

Book:Becoming One: A Story of Triumph Over Dissociative Identity Disorder

Source: Becoming One: A Story of Triumph Over Dissociative Identity Disorder

“Of most dreadful suffering, I am the cause.”

Suffering Blame Greek Tragedy Electra Euripides Self Blame Recriminations

Book:Electra

Source: Electra

“The first noble truth of the Buddha is that when we feel suffering, it doesn't mean that something is wrong. What a relief. Finally somebody told the truth. Suffering is part of life, and we don't have to feel it's happening because we personally made the wrong move.”

Life Suffering Blame Self Blame

Book:When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times

Source: When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times

“Her death was my fault. Other people have always been a little too quick to assure me that it wasn't; and yes, only a kid, who could have known, terrible accident, rotten luck, could have happened to anyone, it's all perfectly true and I don't believe a word of it.”

Death Grief Grief And Loss Death Of A Loved One Self Blame

Book:The Goldfinch

Source: The Goldfinch

“Janna knew - Rikki knew — and I knew, too — that becoming Dr Cameron West wouldn't make me feel a damn bit better about myself than I did about being Citizen West. Citizen West, Citizen Kane, Sugar Ray Robinson, Robinson Crusoe, Robinson miso, miso soup, black bean soup, black sticky soup, black sticky me. Yeah. Inside I was still a fetid and festering corpse covered in sticky blackness, still mired in putrid shame and scorching self-hatred. I could write an 86-page essay comparing the features of Borderline Personality Disorder with those of Dissociative Identity Disorder, but I barely knew what day it was, or even what month, never knew where the car was parked when Dusty would come out of the grocery store, couldn't look in the mirror for fear of what—or whom—I'd see. ~ Dr Cameron West describes living with DID whilst studying to be a psychologist.”

Source: First Person Plural: My Life as a Multiple

“Of all the horrid ramifications of child abuse, the self-beliefs formed by the child reap the greatest destruction. Abuse is the most penetrating and permanent communication possible, and it always conveys to the child one or more of several messages: ‘I caused it to happen. It’s my fault because I am bad. I don’t deserve any better.”

Self Esteem Abuse Child Abuse Bad Core Beliefs Self Blame

Book:Am I Bad? Recovering from Abuse

Source: Am I Bad? Recovering from Abuse

“You have to let it go. You can hold on to the hate and the love and even the bitterness, but you have to go of the blame. The blame is what's tearing you down, babe.”

Sky Holder Self Blame

Book:Hopeless

Source: Hopeless

“Resiliency is the body's internal response to a stressful situation.”

Responsibility Laughter Shame Trauma Usa Canada Self Blame Capella University

Book:The Effects of Childhood Trauma on Adult Perception and Worldview

Source: The Effects of Childhood Trauma on Adult Perception and Worldview

“One must consider that small children are virtually incapable of making much impact on their world. No matter what path taken as a child, survivors grow up believing they should have done something differently. Perhaps there is no greater form of survivor guilt than “I didn't try to stop it." Or “I should have told." The legacy of a helpless, vulnerable, out-of-control, and humiliated child creates an adult who is generally tentative, insecure, and quite angry. The anger is not often expressed, however, as it is not safe to be angry with violent people. Confrontation and conﬂict are difﬁcult for many survivors.”

Conflict Angry Guilt Boundaries Vulnerable Insecure Confrontation Survivors Humiliated Victim Blaming Relationship Problems Child Abuse Survivors Self Blame Helped Survivor Guilt Boundary Issues Child Abuse Effects Abuse History

Author:Sarah E. Olson

“I couldn’t trust my own emotions. Which emotional reactions were justified, if any? And which ones were tainted by the mental illness of BPD? I found myself fiercely guarding and limiting my emotional reactions, chastising myself for possible distortions and motivations. People who had known me years ago would barely recognize me now. I had become quiet and withdrawn in social settings, no longer the life of the party. After all, how could I know if my boisterous humor were spontaneous or just a borderline desire to be the center of attention? I could no longer trust any of my heart felt beliefs and opinions on politics, religion, or life. The debate queen had withered. I found myself looking at every single side of an issue unable to come to any conclusions for fear they might be tainted. My lifelong ability to be assertive had turned into a constant state of passivity.”

Mental Illness Diagnosis Emotional Pain Self Doubt Mental Disorder Borderline Borderline Personality Disorder Bpd Self Blame

Book:Get Me Out of Here: My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder

Source: Get Me Out of Here: My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder

“One of the reasons a survivor finds it so difficult to see herself as a victim is that she has been blamed repeatedly for the abuse: "If you weren't such a whore, this wouldn't have to happen." Each time she is used and trashed, she becomes further convinced of her innate badness. She sees herself participating in forbidden sexual activity and may often get some sense of gratification from it even if she doesn't want to (it is, after all, a form of touch, and our bodies respond without the consent of our wills). This is seen as further proof that the abuse is her fault and well deserved. In her mind, she has become responsible for the actions of her abusers. She believes she is not a victim; she is a loathsome, despicable, worthless human being—if indeed she even qualifies as human. When the abuse has been sadistic in nature...these beliefs are futher entrenched.”

Child Abuse Child Sexual Abuse Abuse Survivors Incest Dehumanization Complex Ptsd Victim Blaming Child Sexual Abuse Survivor Complex Trauma Self Blame Child Sexual Abuse Survivors No Longer Human

Book:Counseling Survivors of Sexual Abuse

Source: Counseling Survivors of Sexual Abuse

“Slowly, I'm beginning to realise that what happened to me wasn't my fault, that I was taken advantage of by a group of vile, twisted men.”

Source: Girl A: My Story

“We don’t widely accept the idea that bad things happen for uncontrollable reasons because of fear. How could that be? If that is true, we can’t make sense of it with our cognitive brains. And that is scary. If that is true, there is no way for us to control those things while in human form. And that is scary. So we search for meaning, a less scary understanding. And we usually end up assuming the victim is to blame.”

Good People Survivors Rape Culture Bad Things Happen Victim Blaming Child Abuse Survivor Self Blame Just World Bad Things In Your Life Just World Beliefs

Author:Elisabeth Corey

“I do not understand it. I would not have believed that such things could happen on our farm. It must be due to some fault in ourselves. The solution, as I see it, is to work harder. From now onwards I shall get up a full hour earlier in the mornings.”

Self Blame Ignoring Issues

Book:Animal Farm

Source: Animal Farm

“Escape from reality. In some instances, dissociation induces people to imagine that they have some kind of mastery over intractable environmental difficulties. Dissociation is often implicated in magical thinking or self-induced trance states. This aspect of dissociation is frequently found in abuse survivors. It is not uncommon for abused children to engage in magical thinking to retain an illusion of control over the situation (e.g., believing that they "cause" the perpetrator to act out).”

“Refuse to blame yourself for not being 'good enough”

Blame Blame Game Self Blame Self Critical Blaming Yourself Blame The Victim Blamed Critical People Being Blamed

Author:John Mark Green

“Years ago I had realized I was blaming myself for it. People and doctors would tell me it wasn't my fault, but I couldn't “BELIEVE” it! Then I was talking to my friend Kieran and he explained to me in a way that I could PERCEIVE that I was not at fault. No one else could ever do that before, though many tried. Many, many people had tried to tell me it wasn't my fault, but I was convinced it was my fault because I was trying to cheer up my dad.”

Psychology Denial Child Abuse Ptsd Posttraumatic Stress Disorder Core Beliefs Self Blame Cognitive Distortions Schema

Author:Robert Anthony

“Swinging from attack and deflection to complete self-blame eradicates any chance for resolution or understanding.”

Truth Manipulation Emotional Abuse Toxic Relationships Narcissistic Abuse Gaslighting Red Flags Self Blame Covert Narcissist Darvo

Book:Calling Out the Shadows: A Father's Stand Against the Current: Clarity over comfort. Transparency over secrecy. Structure over spin. Love over anger.

Source: Calling Out the Shadows: A Father's Stand Against the Current: Clarity over comfort. Transparency over secrecy. Structure over spin. Love over anger.

“Blame is a Defense Against Powerlessness Betrayal trauma changes you. You have endured a life-altering shock, and are likely living with PTSD symptoms— hypervigilance, flashbacks and bewilderment—with broken trust, with the inability to cope with many situations, and with the complete shut down of parts of your mind, including your ability to focus and regulate your emotions. Nevertheless, if you are unable to recognize the higher purpose in your pain, to forgive and forget and move on, you clearly have chosen to be addicted to your pain and must enjoy playing the victim. And the worst is, we are only too ready to agree with this assessment! Trauma victims commonly blame themselves. Blaming oneself for the shame of being a victim is recognized by trauma specialists as a defense against the extreme powerlessness we feel in the wake of a traumatic event. Self-blame continues the illusion of control shock destroys, but prevents us from the necessary working through of the traumatic feelings and memories to heal and recover.”

“It is a strange thing we do, blaming ourselves when people hurt us, but we all do it.”

Hurt Self Blame

Author:Jodi Aman

“I was a very lonely child and it's funny but the first word that comes to my head is "starved". I felt starved of affection, starved of love and I felt that it wasn't OK to ask for it. Maybe there was a sense that if I deserved it, it would be there. There must be something I'd done which meant I didn't deserve it.”

Starving Anorexia Eating Disorder Unloved Lack Of Love Emotional Neglect Unmet Needs Self Blame Starved

Book:To Die For

Source: To Die For