“Anger gets a bad rap. We have heard that anger is not acceptable for most of our lives. We hear that it is undignified and even crazy to be angry. It’s confusing because we often grow up in a household with a very angry person, but we are told we can never be angry. This continues in adulthood as oppressed people are villainized for expressing anger even though powerful people express it all the time. But there’s an ulterior motive for these messages. If we get angry, they lose their control. In reality, they are terrified of our anger. Why? Our anger is our self-love. It is telling us that something is wrong with how we are being treated. Let it say what it needs to say. Rage on the page. The more we can express our anger, the better our boundaries will become.” EmotionsAbuseAngerTrauma Author:Elisabeth Corey
“We don’t widely accept the idea that bad things happen for uncontrollable reasons because of fear. How could that be? If that is true, we can’t make sense of it with our cognitive brains. And that is scary. If that is true, there is no way for us to control those things while in human form. And that is scary. So we search for meaning, a less scary understanding. And we usually end up assuming the victim is to blame.” Good PeopleSurvivorsRape CultureBad Things HappenVictim BlamingChild Abuse SurvivorSelf BlameJust WorldBad Things In Your LifeJust World Beliefs Author:Elisabeth Corey
“As we let go of our need to control, we find freedom.” FearFreedomMental HealthControlSelf ControlChild Abuse SurvivorsNeed For Control Author:Elisabeth Corey