“When someone hurts you or harms you, even if it is a deep wound, forgive them. Forgive them NOT for their sake, but as a sign of gratitude to Allah. Why you ask? For making you the victim and not the oppressor. There is no crime in being a victim, rather it brings you closer to Allah and rids you of sins. But as for the oppressor, they'll have to face their Lord one day. So in reality, they are their own greatest victims.” IfsRealityFacesAsksHurtSinLordCrimeGratitudeOne DayVictimForgivingSakeHarmWoundsMuslimOppressorsDeep Wounds Author:Suhaib Webb
“As we try to change, we will discover within us a fierce struggle between our loyalty to that battle-scarred victim of his own childhood, our father, and the father we want to be. We must meet our childhood father at close range: get to know him, learn to forgive him, and somehow, go beyond him.” KnowsWantTryingChildrenFatherStruggleChildhoodStyleIdentityBattleOur ChildrenVictimForgivingLoyaltyRangeFierceOur FatherLearn To ForgiveParenting Styles Author:Augustus Napier
“If forgiving depended on the culprit owning up, then the victim would always be at the mercy of the perpetrator. The victim would be bound in the shackles of victimhood.” IfsWould BeMercyVictimForgivingBoundsShacklesVictimhoodPerpetratorsCulprit Author:Desmond Tutu
“As the victim, you offer the gift of your forgiving to the perpetrator who may or may not appropriate the gift but it has been offered and thereby it liberates the victim.” MayHas BeensOffersVictimForgivingAppropriatePerpetrators Author:Desmond Tutu
“Most people focus on forgiving others, thinking there isn't a need for self-forgiveness, particularly if they see themselves as a victim.” PeopleIfsThinkingNeedsSelfFocusVictimForgivingSelf ForgivenessForgiving Others Author:Liane Holliday Willey
“Make your way to death row and speak with the tragic victims of criminality. As they prepare to make their pathetic walk to the electric chair, their hopeless cry is that society will not forgive. Capital punishment is society's final assertion that it will not forgive.” WaySpeakWalksCryVictimForgivingFinalsPunishmentChairsTragicHopelessElectricPatheticAssertionCapital PunishmentCriminalityDeath RowElectric Chair Book:A Gift of Love: Sermons from Strength to Love and Other Preachings Source: A Gift of Love: Sermons from Strength to Love and Other Preachings
“If you do not for give you actually are tying yourself to the perpetrator, that you are going to live your life as a victim. And you won't experience a liberation that comes from forgiving.” IfsGivingVictimForgivingLiberationLive Your LifePerpetrators Author:Desmond Tutu
“Torture is something that happens between two people, the torturer and the victim. The victim is made to taste death without actually dying. He is subjected to atrocious pain and begs his torturer to kill him. He's even ready to forgive the torturer as long as he kills him.” PeopleLongMadeTwoHappensPainDyingReadyTasteVictimForgivingTorture Author:Saadi Yacef
“If we can forgive what’s been done to us... If we can forgive what we’ve done to others... If we can leave all of our stories behind. Our being villains or victims. Only then can we maybe rescue the world.” IfsWorldDoneStoriesBehindsVictimForgivingVillainRescue Author:Chuck Palahniuk
“It is difficult to feel sympathy for these people. It is difficult to regard some bawdy drunk and see them as sick and powerless. It is difficult to suffer the selfishness of a drug addict who will lie to you and steal from you and forgive them and offer them help. Can there be any other disease that renders its victims so unappealing?” PeopleIfsFeelsLittlesHelpingLyingSufferingCausesDifficultStreetsDrugOffersBedDiseaseSickRegardVictimForgivingAddictionCriminalsStealingDrunkSelfishnessAttractivePowerlessAddictDrug AddictionDrug AddictObnoxious Author:Russell Brand
“If we say that monsters [people who do terrible evil] are beyond forgiving, we give them a power they should never have...they are given the power to keep their evil alive in the hearts of those who suffered most. We give them power to condemn their victims to live forever with the hurting memory of their painful pasts. We give the monsters the last word.” PeopleIfsGivingShouldHeartLastsPastEvilGivenHurtMemoriesForeverAliveTerribleForgivenessVictimForgivingPainfulMonstersLast WordsLive ForeverPainful Past Author:Lewis B. Smedes
“Forgiving is an affair strictly between a victim and a victimizer. Everyone else should step aside...The worst wounds I ever felt were the ones people gave to my children. Wrong my kids, you wrong me. And my hurt qualifies me to forgive you. But only for the pain you caused me when you wounded them. My children alone are qualified to forgive you for what you did to them.” PeopleShouldChildrenKidsPainFeltHurtStepsWorstForgivenessVictimForgivingAffairWoundsMy ChildrenWoundedQualified Author:Lewis B. Smedes