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Alice Miller, born on January 12, 1923, and died on April 12, 2010, was a renowned psychologist. Her research focused on child psychology and the psychology of abuse, delving deeply into the psychological impact of child abuse and neglect.

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“The more we idealize the past and refuse to acknowledge our childhood sufferings, the more we pass them on unconsciously to the next generation.”

Past Suffering Next Generations Childhood Our Children Refuse Acknowledge Next Generation

Book:For Your Own Good: Hidden Cruelty in Child-Rearing and the Roots of Violence

Source: For Your Own Good: Hidden Cruelty in Child-Rearing and the Roots of Violence

“someday we will regard our children not as creatures to manipulate or to change but rather as messengers from a world we once deeply knew, but which we have long since forgotten, who can reveal to us more about the true secrets of life, and also our own lives, than our parents were ever able to.”

Source: For Your Own Good: Hidden Cruelty in Child-Rearing and the Roots of Violence

“I sincerely believe that we not only have the right to know what is good and what is evil; we have the duty to acquire that knowledge if we hope to assume responsibility for our own lives and those of our children. Only by knowing the truth can we be set free.”

Ifs Knows Believe Children Truth Evil Responsibility Knowing Duty Our Children Assuming Acquire Good And Evil Sincerely Knowing The Truth

Book:The Truth Will Set You Free: Overcoming Emotional Blindness and Finding Your True Adult Self

Source: The Truth Will Set You Free: Overcoming Emotional Blindness and Finding Your True Adult Self

“Anyone who has ever been a mother or father and is at all honest knows from experience how difficult it can be for parents to accept certain aspects of their children. It is especially painful to have to admit this if we really love our child and want to respect his or her individuality yet are unable to do so.”

Ifs Knows Want Children Mother Certain Father Parent Difficult Accepting Honest Aspect Our Children Individuality Painful Love Our Children

Book:For Your Own Good: Hidden Cruelty in Child-Rearing and the Roots of Violence

Source: For Your Own Good: Hidden Cruelty in Child-Rearing and the Roots of Violence

“Almost everywhere we find . . . the use of various coercive measures, to rid ourselves as quickly as possible of the child withinus--i.e., the weak, helpless, dependent creature--in order to become an independent competent adult deserving of respect. When we reencounter this creature in our children, we persecute it with the same measures once used in ourselves.”

Children Use Used Order Creatures Adults Weak Our Children Independent Various Dependent Helpless Competent Deserving

Book:For Your Own Good: Hidden Cruelty in Child-Rearing and the Roots of Violence

Source: For Your Own Good: Hidden Cruelty in Child-Rearing and the Roots of Violence

“The truth about our childhood is stored up in our body, and although we can repress it, we can never alter it. Our intellect can be deceived, our feelings manipulated, and conceptions confused, and our body tricked with medication. But someday our body will present its bill, for it is as incorruptible as a child, who, still whole in spirit, will accept no compromises or excuses, and it will not stop tormenting us until we stop evading the truth.”

Children Stills Whole Feelings Body Spirit Accepting Childhood Our Children Bills Excuse Intellect Compromise Confused Someday Conception Deceived Medication No Compromise

Author:Alice Miller