“The free expression of resentment against one's parents represents a great opportunity. It provides access to one's true self, reactivates numbed feelings, opens the way for mourning and - with luck - reconciliation.” WaySelfFeelingsOpportunityParentFamilyExpressionLuckAccessMourningResentmentTrue SelfReconciliationGreat OpportunityFree Expression Author:Alice Miller
“The grandiose person is never really free; first because he is excessively dependent on admiration from others, and second, because his self-respect is dependent on qualities, functions, and achievements that can suddenly fail.” FirstsPersonsSelfQualityFailingAchievementFunctionSelf RespectDependentAdmirationGrandiose Book:The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self Source: The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self
“Quite often I have been faced with people who were praised and admired for their talents and their achievements... According to prevailing attitudes, these people-the pride and joy of their parents-should have had a strong and stable sense of self-assurance. But the case is exactly the opposite... Whenever they suddenly get the feeling they have failed to live up to some ideal image or have not measured up to some standard, then they are plagued by anxiety or deep feelings of guilt and shame. What are the reasons for such disturbances in these competent, accomplished people?” PeopleShouldHas BeensSelfReasonFeelingsJoyStrongParentAttitudeCasesTalentPrideAchievementAnxietyStandardsIdealsShould HaveOppositesShameGuiltAccomplishedStableAssuranceCompetentSense Of SelfPrevailingDisturbanceSelf AssuranceDeep Feeling Author:Alice Miller
“All children are born to grow, to develop, to live, to love, and to articulate their needs and feelings for their self-protection” NeedsChildrenSelfFeelingsGrowsBornProtectionSelf Protection Book:The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self Source: The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self
“He has given ample evidence of qualities hardly any other living statesman has demonstrated to the same degree: the courage to look facts in the face and to seek flexible solutions, respect for others, give-and-take in dialog situations, absence of hypocrisy, a complete absence of grandeur in the conduct of his personal life. He has never been driven by blind self-assertion to make absurd decisions.” GivingLooksSelfFactsFacesGivenDecisionQualitySituationDegreesSolutionsEvidenceBlindDrivenAbsenceAbsurdHypocrisyPersonal LifeFlexibleRespecting OthersGrandeurStatesmenAssertionGive And Take Author:Alice Miller
“Ultimately the body will rebel. Even if it can be temporarily pacified with the help of drugs, cigarettes or medicine, it usually has the last word because it is quicker to see through self-deception than the mind. We may ignore or deride the messages of the body, but its rebellion demands to be heeded because its language is the authentic expression of our true selves and of the strength of our vitality.” IfsMindMaySelfPhilosophyHelpingBodyLastsLanguagePsychologyExpressionDrugDemandMessagesMedicineSensesDeceptionRebellionRebelCigaretteTrue SelfLast WordsVitalitySelf DeceptionSoma Author:Alice Miller
