“As the creative adult needs to toy with ideas, the child, to form his ideas, needs toys--and plenty of leisure and scope to play with them as he likes, and not just the way adults think proper. This is why he must be given this freedom for his play to be successful and truly serve him well.” ThinkingWayNeedsWellsChildrenIdeasPlayFormGivenCreativityCreativeSuccessfulAdultsLikesPlentyBeing SuccessfulLeisureToysScope Author:Bruno Bettelheim
“The goal in raising one's child is to enable him, first, to discover who he wants to be, and then to become a person who can be satisfied with himself and his way of life. Eventually he ought to be able to do in his life whatever seems important, desirable, and worthwhile to him to do; to develop relations with other people that are constructive, satisfying, mutually enriching; and to bear up well under the stresses and hardships he will unavoidably encounter during his life.” PeopleWayWantFirstsWellsChildrenPersonsImportantSeemsAbleGoalGrowing UpBearsOughtStressRelationSatisfiedEncountersHardshipSatisfyingWorthwhileDesirableConstructiveEnriching Author:Bruno Bettelheim
“The child knows only that he engages in play because it is enjoyable. He isn't aware of his need to play--a need which has its source in the pressure of unsolved problems. Nor does he know that his pleasure in playing comes from a deep sense of well-being that is the direct result of feeling in control of things, in contrast to the rest of his life, which is managed by his parents or other adults.” KnowsNeedsWellsChildrenDoePlayFeelingsProblemParentPleasureResultsSourceAdultsDirectPressureWell BeingContrastEnjoyableUnsolved Problems Author:Bruno Bettelheim
“The only effective way to help well-intentioned, intelligent persons to do the best they can in raising children is to encourage and guide them always to do their own thinking in their attempts at understanding and dealing with child-rearing situations and problems, and not to rely blindly on the opinions of others.” ThinkingWayWellsChildrenPersonsHelpingProblemUnderstandingSituationOpinionIntelligentGuidesRelyDo The BestRaising ChildrenChild RearingIntelligent Person Author:Bruno Bettelheim
“While criticism or fear of punishment may restrain us from doing wrong, it does not make us wish to do right. Disregarding this simple fact is the great error into which parents and educators fall when they rely on these negative means of correction. The only effective discipline is self-discipline, motivated by the inner desire to act meritoriously in order to do well in one's own eyes, according to one's own values, so that one may feel good about oneself may "have a good conscience.” FeelsWellsMayMeanDoeSelfFactsEyeDesireValuesOrderFallWishParentSimpleDisciplineConscienceNegativeCriticismErrorsOneselfPunishmentFeel GoodRelyMotivatedSelf DisciplineEducatorCorrections Author:Bruno Bettelheim
“Parents ought, through their own behavior and the values by which they live, to provide direction for their children. But they need to rid themselves of the idea that there are surefire methods which, when well applied, will produce certain predictable results. Whatever we do with and for our children ought to flow from our understanding of and our feelings for the particular situation and the relation we wish to exist between us and our child.” NeedsWellsChildrenIdeasFeelingsCertainValuesWishParentUnderstandingResultsSituationProduceParticularOughtBehaviorFlowRelationOur ChildrenMethodPredictable Author:Bruno Bettelheim
