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“Every single human being is trying his best. We're all doing the best we can. But when we believe what we think, we have to live out those thoughts. When there's chaos in our heads, there's chaos in our lives. When there's hurt in our thinking, there's hurt in our lives. Love thy neighbor as thyself? I always have. When I hated me, I hated you. That's how it works. If I hate someone, I'm mistaking them for me, and solutions remain hidden.”

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“The world will be at war as long as the mind is at war with itself. If we can't find peace within ourselves, where is the hope for peace in the world?”

Ifs World Mind Long War Peace Of Mind Finding Peace Peace Within

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“If your beliefs are stressful and you question them, you come to see that they aren't true - whereas prior to questioning, you absolutely believe them. How can you live in joy when you're believing thoughts that bring on sadness, frustration, anger, alienation, and loneliness?”

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“The world you live in is 100 percent your own responsibility. If you don't like your world, it doesn't work to say, "Well, it's my mother's fault. She taught me how to think."”

Ifs Thinking World Wells Mother Responsibility Taught Like You Percent Faults

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“For me, if somebody tells me to go away, that is an opportunity for me to give them a better life. And that's an opportunity for me to know and realize where not to be. It's an opportunity for me to see what could be better than being with that person I love.”

Ifs Giving Persons Opportunity Realizing Going Away Better Life

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“If we are in silence - in absolute silence with no thoughts - for 10 minutes, it's only a thought that tells us we were silent for 10 minutes. Our only proof is a thought.”

Ifs Silence Minutes Absolutes Silent Proof

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“If people are living their lives for security and comfort and pleasure, then mind's every waking moment will be plotting those things. That's how it stays identified - as a body, as a you.”

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“If I want something, I go get it. Anything that I believe will stop me, I question.”

Ifs Want Believe I Believe Want Something

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“Some children are afraid to die because their parents are afraid to die. My own children have come to understand that it's totally okay with me if they die. They don't have to live for my sake.”

Ifs Children Dies Parent My Own Okay Sake

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“If you think the cause of your problem is 'out there,' you'll try to solve it from the outside. Take the shortcut: solve it from within.”

Ifs Thinking Trying Problem Causes Solve Shortcuts

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“Bottom line is, if someone says something about me and it upsets me, it's true.”

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“I see the goodness and beauty in everyone, and everything is a gift given for me and for all of us. If you don't love it, question your mind until you do.”

Ifs Mind Given Goodness

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“It's very benign, it seems, to think, "There's a tree." In fact, it's a very beautiful thought. If someone chops down all the trees, then we think, "Oh, my goodness, something is out of order in my world." We begin to think, "Who am I in a world without trees?"”

Ifs Thinking World Facts Seems Beautiful Order Tree Goodness Very Beautiful Benign Beautiful Thoughts

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“I'm the one who changes the world if I can follow what I think should and shouldn't be lived in this world.”

Ifs Thinking World Should I Can This World Changing The World

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“If our stressful thoughts aren't true, what does that leave? It leaves, "I am loveable" - the very thing I could never make myself believe, because "I'm unloveable" overrides it when the chips are down.”

Ifs Believe Doe Chips Stressful

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“When people are talking about manifesting, we can say, "I want a car, I want a car, I want a car," but if the mind is running, "I don't deserve it, I'll never be able to afford it, I'll never be a success" - if all those things are running - then those things are what we're really manifesting. They are exactly what's running our life. And as long as we believe those thoughts, thinking positively is not strong enough to override our negative beliefs.”

“No one told me that you could be alive and be happy. No one told me, and if someone had I wouldn't have believed them. I thought that you had to die - physically die - to escape.”

Ifs Dies Alive

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“If I think the environment in the world needs to be cleaned up, let me clean up my own environment. Let me clean up the environment in my head - let me work with that pollution and that ecosystem.”

Ifs Thinking World Needs My Own Environment Let Me Clean Pollution Ecosystems

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“The power of one! If I can't stop war in my life, how can I expect politicians to stop war in the world? I can't. And we all have equal wisdom, so if I can do it then I know that anyone can do it if their mind is open to answering just four simple questions and beginning there.”

Ifs Knows World Mind I Can War Can Do Simple Four Politician Equal I Can Do It Power Of One Stop War

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“If something happens to your son, your thoughts about not having him in your life is what your terror is. It's not about his life.”

Ifs Happens Life Is Son Terror Things Happen Your Son

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“If you question your thoughts about when your son is not healthy, you come to see that you're the only one you're worried about. It's like without him, you're not happy - so it's all about your happiness. You want him to live for you - for your happiness.”

Ifs Want Son Healthy Worried Not Happy Want Him Your Son

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“If I'm okay with dying, my son is at least as enlightened as that. If I'm okay with my cancer, my son is at least as enlightened as I am.”

Ifs Dying Son Okay Cancer Enlightened My Son

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“If someone says, "Katie, you are out of order," over something I've said, or, "Katie, you are wrong," if I defend myself or justify myself, then I have just started the war.”

Ifs Said War Order Justify Katie

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“They say, "Katie, you're wrong." And if I say, "How dare you say that? I have studied and studied." Or, "I am an expert in" whatever area we're talking about. Or, "No, you are wrong! And I think you're rude!" Or anything like that, and if we don't say it out loud, maybe we think it, but that's stressful. The moment I've defended, in any way, I've started the war.”

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“I have an expression I say a lot: I'm in a hurry. There's suffering on this planet that is so easy to break through if the mind is open to doing so.”

Ifs Mind Suffering Easy Break Planets Expression Break Through

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“Life is simple. Everything happens for you, not to you. Everything happens at exactly the right moment, neither too soon nor too late. You don't have to like it... it's just easier if you do.”

“The miracle of love comes to you in the presence of the uninterpreted moment. If you are mentally somewhere else, you miss real life.”

Ifs Real Moments Missing Miracle Real Life Somewhere Else Katie

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“If you put your hand into a fire, does anyone have to tell you to move it? Do you have to decide? No: When your hand starts to burn, it moves. You don’t have to direct it; the hand moves itself. In the same way, once you understand, through inquiry, that an untrue thought causes suffering, you move away from it.”

Ifs Way Doe Hands Moving Suffering Causes Fire Direct Inquiry Untrue Katie

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“There is nothing that isn't true if you believe it; and nothing is true, believe it or not.”

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“I can find only three kinds of business in the universe: mine, yours and God's. Much of our stress comes from mentally living out of our business. When I think, "You need to get a job, I want you to be happy, you should be on time, you need to take better care of yourself," I am in your business. When I'm worried about earthquakes, floods, war, or when I will die, I am in God's business. If I am mentally in your business or in God's business, the effect is separation.”

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“Who cares if you're enlightened forever? Can you just get it in this moment, now?”

Ifs Moments Care Spiritual Spirituality Forever Enlightened Who Cares

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“If I had a prayer, it would be this: "God, spare me from the desire for love, approval, or appreciation. Amen."”

Ifs Love Would Be Desire Prayer Appreciation Approval Spares Amen Katie Love And Appreciation

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“If our thinking is clear, how could work or money be the problem? Our thinking is all we need to change.”

Ifs Thinking Needs Problem Change Clear Need A Change

Book:Question Your Thinking, Change the World

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“Do you know anyone who hasn't changed his mind? This door was a tree, then it will be firewood for someone, then it will return to air and earth. We're all like that, constantly changing. It's simply honest to report that you've changed your mind when you have. When you're afraid of what people will think if you speak honestly, that's where you become confused.”

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“Who would you be if you didn't believe this lie?”

Ifs Believe Lying

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“After you've been doing inquiry for a while, if you have the thought "She doesn't love me," you just get the immediate turnaround with a smile: "Oh, I'm not loving myself in this moment."”

Ifs Moments Smile Inquiry Turnaround Loving Myself

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“The Work is merely four questions; it's not even a thing. It has no motive, no strings. It's nothing without your answers. These four questions will join any program you've got and enhance it. Any religion you have - they'll enhance it. If you have no religion, they will bring you joy. And they'll burn up anything that isn't true for you. They'll burn through to the reality that has always been waiting.”

Ifs Reality Joy Waiting Answers Four Program Motive Strings Ads Katie

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“If I think that someone else is causing my problem, I'm insane.”

Ifs Thinking Problem Sin Insane

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“The end of suffering happens in this very moment, whether you're watching a terrorist attack or doing the dishes. And compassion begins at home. Because I don't believe my thoughts, sadness can't exist. That's how I can go to the depths of anyone's suffering, if they invite me, and take them by the hand and walk them out of it into the sunlight of reality. I've taken that walk myself.”

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“If you want a little fear and terror because your life is dull, get a future. Terrifying!”

Ifs Want Littles Life Is Terror Dull

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“I've heard people say that they cling to their painful thoughts because they're afraid that without them they wouldn't be activists for peace. “If I feel peaceful,” they say, “why would I bother taking action at all?” My answer is “Because that's what love does.” To think that we need sadness or outrage to motivate us to do what's right is insane. As if the clearer and happier you get, the less kind you become. As if when someone finds freedom, she just sits around all day with drool running down her chin. My experience is the opposite. Love is action.”

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“There's never a mistake in the universe. So if your partner is angry, good. If there are things about him that you consider flaws, good, because these flaws are your own, you're projecting them, and you can write them down, inquire, and set yourself free. People go to India to find a guru, but you don't have to: you're living with one. Your partner will give you everything you need for your own freedom.”

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“Nothing can cost you someone you love. The only thing that can cost you your husband is if you believe a thought. That's how you move away from him. That's how the marriage ends. You are one with your husband until you believe the thought that he should look a certain way, he should give you something, he should be something other than what he is. That's how you divorce him. Right then and there you have lost your marriage.”

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“So there's only transcendence in the moment. Nobody can be transcended forever. That's why I say, "Who cares if you're enlightened forever?"”

Ifs Moments Care Time Freedom Forever Enlightened Who Cares Transcendence

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“If you want reality to be different than it is, you might as well try to teach a cat to bark.”

Ifs Want Trying Wells Different Reality Might Teach Cat Try Again Bark

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“You can't have an up without a down. You can't have a left without a right. This is duality. If you have a problem, you must already have the solution. The question is, do you really want the solution, or do you want to perpetuate the problem?”

Ifs Want Life Problem Left Solutions Duality

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“If you want real control, drop the illusion of control; let life have you. It does anyway. You’re just telling yourself the story of how it doesn’t.”

Ifs Want Doe Real Stories Illusion Illusion Of Control

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“Everyone wants peace, inside and outside, and we would all have it if we knew how. Now we know how. It begins with you.”

Ifs Knows Want Know How Inside And Outside Peace Inside

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“If you don't like your world, question your thoughts about it.”

Ifs World Like You

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“If your happiness depends on your children being happy, that makes them your hostages. So stay out of their business, stop using them for your happiness, and be your own happiness. And that way you are the teacher for your children: someone who knows how to live a happy life.”

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