Quotessence
Home / Authors / D.K. Sanz Biography

D.K. Sanz Biography

Author

Related Quotes

“Love is good, but to be comfortable loving and being loved in return, we must realize we deserve it. We must realize we are worthy. Getting to that place opens another door in the journey of our recovery from past trauma and emotional abuse. Beyond it, more beauty awaits—and more joy.”

LoveJoyRecoveryTrauma HealingTrauma RecoveryWorthy Of LovePast Trauma
Book:Grateful to Be Alive: My Road to Recovery from Addiction
Create image

“A recovery friend of mine once belonged to an AA group called “What’s Your Motivation?” She said she’d always ask herself that in situations where she had to say or do something she might regret, and she’d ask others as well. She asked me that once or twice. So, you start out by asking yourself that question when the situation arises, and a lot of time you realize there is no good motive behind the thing you want to do or say, so you don’t say it. You don’t do it. After a while, it becomes second nature. Unfortunately, however, so many people out there are living their lives while untreated for their afflictions. Whether it’s addiction, including alcoholism, or a type of personality disorder, their behavior often stems from how they feel about themselves based on other people’s words and actions, things they had inadvertently taken on and clung to fiercely. They may have a desperate need for attention, validation, admiration, and respect. Maybe their delusions distort their perception of themselves and how others view them. They are so busy worrying about themselves that they are often oblivious to their motives and may not realize how little regard they have for others. In a genuine sense, they are fighting for themselves, but they’re not winning. Many of us have lived that way once upon a time and, because of it, spent a copious amount of energy on damage control. Knowing we said something we shouldn’t have said or did something we shouldn’t have done and going into this anxiety-ridden desperation to save our “image”—an image that likely isn’t real but a delusion. When we should be more concerned about apologizing or making amends, we’re more obsessed with not wanting to be seen in a negative light and having to act in order to change the negative perception. It takes recovery, healing, and time to learn that if you are intent on doing the right thing, doing right by people, and having everyone’s best interests at heart, you’ll know how to react and respond to things. And if you ever say or do something you regret, you simply say you were wrong and apologize. Empathy for others and for ourselves is what makes it possible. It makes us care about how we treat people and the effect it’s having on not only them but on our lives and the lives of anyone who cares about us. We eventually understand that how we treat people is just as important as catering to our own needs. I think it’s important to understand what made us a certain way in life and to acknowledge that, but then we have to fix it. It becomes our job and responsibility to heal that so that we grow and change. Too many people never get to a point where they can see it, let alone understand it, so those of us who do are quite fortunate.”

MotivationHopeHealingEgoEmpathyMental HealthTraumaRecoveryAddiction And Recovery
Author:D.K. Sanz
Create image

“People don’t necessarily realize it when they contribute to the erosion of a child’s self-worth, but kids pay attention to how people treat them, and they get the message loud and clear. I wish I could say it didn’t distort their self-perception and make them more sensitive and insecure, but it does.”

ChildrenMental HealthBullyingEmotional AbuseMental Health AwarenessChildhood TraumaMental Health StigmaNeurodivergenceKindness Matters
Book:Grateful to Be Alive: My Road to Recovery from Addiction
Create image

“You may be broken now, and things look rather bleak. I know. You may not believe me when I say you can heal because your heart is breaking in a way it never has. It’s like every broken heart you’ve ever had has come together to magnify the brokenness. It seems everything has fallen apart, but soon it will all come together again, I promise you—the way it was supposed to be. Deep down, we have the answers. When we are ready, we’ll align our will with the will of our highest power of love and light. I’m here with you.”

LoveHealingBrokenBroken HeartHealing QuotesLove And LightComforting Words
Book:Grateful to Be Alive: My Road to Recovery fom Addiction
Create image

“When we place someone on a pedestal, we elevate them almost to the status of a god. Our perception of them goes from one extreme to another. This paragon of the ideal either walks on water or is a monster We trust them; then we don’t. They can’t possibly live up to the image we created of them or meet all of the expectations we have because what we want is the fantasy—not the human being donning the costume. We don’t really know the human being behind the fantasy. All the while, we may swear that we love them, but we can’t love someone we don’t see.”

EgoAddictionAddiction And RecoveryIdealization
Book:Grateful to Be Alive: My Road to Recovery fom Addiction
Create image

“I am grateful for fond memories of childhood that overshadow the painful ones. I am grateful for all I have been able to resolve internally, for the darkest moments, and for rising from every fall. I am grateful for the beaten dragons. I am grateful for the surviving child in me, for my strong wings, for the doors opening for me, and for the ones that closed behind me after teaching me what I needed to learn.”

GratefulRecoveryGratitude QuotesGratefulness QuotesRecovery QuotesGrateful QuotesRecovery From Addiction
Book:Grateful to Be Alive: My Road to Recovery fom Addiction
Create image

“So many memories come to mind—the child you were, the adult you’ve become—so much anguish for what happened all those years ago. You never wanted to let anyone down, I know. You feel everything so intensely. Just don’t tell me that you don’t deserve better. You do. Don’t tell me you’re a failure. You’re not. We learn from every mistake. That’s not failing; it’s growing. You are a beautiful, empathetic being of love and light. And don’t say hope will damn you. It won’t always, I promise.”

PainHurtHealingComfortTraumaBrokennessHealing The PastTraumatic ExperiencesTrauma Survivors
Book:Grateful to Be Alive: My Road to Recovery from Addiction
Create image

“Someone else’s idea of what constitutes a good life or “happily ever after” is not a one-size-fits-all. You can be someone for whom relationships are too complicated. You can be going through something in your life, processing trauma you may have denied for too long, or you can be going through physical changes in your body. Either way, you might not have the desires other people expect you to have. Maybe all you want right now is a friend. Friendship is the best foundation, anyway, for whatever may evolve beyond that. It boils down to this: Not everyone wants the same thing, and that’s okay.”

RelationshipsFriendshipRecoveryHappily Ever AfterTrauma HealingTrauma Recovery
Book:Grateful to Be Alive: My Road to Recovery from Addiction
Create image