“You know, I think everybody I've seen has come from some other therapy, and almost invariably it's very much the same thing: the therapist is too disinterested, a little too aloof, a little too inactive. They're not really interested in the person, he doesn't relate to the person. All these things I've written so much about. That's why I've made such a practice really, over and over to hammer home the point of self-revelation and being more of yourself and showing yourself. Every book I write I want to get that in there.” ThinkingKnowsWantWritingLittlesPersonsMadeBookSelfHomePracticeWrittenRelateTherapyRevelationsHammersTherapistsDisinterestedAloofSelf Revelation Author:Irvin D. Yalom
“Some day soon, perhaps in forty years, there will be no one alive who has ever known me. That's when I will be truly dead - when I exist in no one's memory. I thought a lot about how someone very old is the last living individual to have known some person or cluster of people. When that person dies, the whole cluster dies,too, vanishes from the living memory. I wonder who that person will be for me. Whose death will make me truly dead?” PeopleYearsPersonsWholeLastsDiesIndividualMemoriesKnownWonderAliveFortyClusters Author:Irvin D. Yalom
“What? 'Borderline patients play games'? That what you said? Ernest, you'll never be a real therapist if you think like that. That's exactly what I meant earlier when I talked about the dangers of diagnosis. There are borderlines and there are borderlines. Labels do violence to people. You can't treat the label; you have to treat the person behind the label. (17)” PeopleIfsThinkingPersonsSaidRealPlayGamesBehindsViolenceDangerTreatsPatientLabelsDiagnosisTherapistsBorderline Author:Irvin D. Yalom
“Love is not just a passion spark between two people; there is infinite difference between falling in love and standing in love. Rather, love is a way of being, a "giving to," not a 'falling for"; a mode of relating at large, not an act limited to a single person.” PeopleWayGivingPersonsTwoFallPassionDifferencesLove IsStandingInfiniteFalling In LoveSparksSingle Person Book:Love's Executioner: And Other Tales of Psychotherapy Source: Love's Executioner: And Other Tales of Psychotherapy
