“As an introvert, you can be your own best friend or your worst enemy. The good news is we generally like our own company, a quality that extroverts often envy. We find comfort in solitude and know how to soothe ourselves. Even our willingness to look at ourselves critically is often helpful.But, we can go too far. We can hoard responsibility and overlook the role others play. We can kick ourselves when we're down. How many times have you felt lousy about something, only to get mad at yourself for feeling lousy?” KnowsLooksPlayFeelingsFeltQualityResponsibilityCompanyEnemyRolesKnow HowWorstComfortSolitudeNewsMadEnvyKicksHelpfulWillingnessIntrovertGood NewsWorst EnemyExtroverts Author:Laurie Helgoe
“An extrovert is more likely to share immediate reactions and process information through conversation.” ProcessShareInformationConversationReactionsExtroverts Author:Laurie Helgoe
“Extroverts are more attuned to social rewards, so they are more likely to flash a smile for effect. A notable exception are introverts - like me - whom I call "socially accessible" introverts. We have been trained well to smile and nod, which can place a burden on our processing efforts.” WellsHas BeensSocialEffortEffectsRewardsBurdenLike MeExceptionFlashIntrovertNotableProcessingExtroverts Author:Laurie Helgoe
“Some findings reveal extroverts as more adept at reading nonverbal cues, and attribute this to the extrovert's greater interest and experience with social interactions. Another line of research using subliminal images of facial emotion found introverts to be more sensitive to the differences, and hypothesized that this may be why introverts regulate the amount of incoming social information.” MayReadingFoundSocialInterestDifferencesLinesEmotionGreaterInformationAmountFindingsResearchSensitiveAttributesInteractionIntrovertFacialSocial InteractionAdeptExtrovertsSubliminalNonverbal Author:Laurie Helgoe
“Introverts are generally more sensitive to low-intensity stimuli - they are mentally alerted to inputs that extroverts may miss.” MayMissingLowsSensitiveIntensityIntrovertStimulusInputExtroverts Author:Laurie Helgoe
“Extroverts are more responsive to high-intensity and "happy" stimuli, which may be why an extrovert gets frustrated at the less "readable" face of the introvert.” MayFacesIntensityFrustratedIntrovertStimulusExtroverts Author:Laurie Helgoe
“If the extrovert is trying to "cheer up" the introvert - extroverts are programmed to seek social rewards! - he or she may feel like a failure if the introvert remains unmoved.” IfsFeelsTryingMaySocialRemainsRewardsCheerIntrovertCheer UpExtroverts Author:Laurie Helgoe
“If the extrovert watches and listens a bit more, the introvert's true mood will become more evident.” IfsBitsWatchesMoodIntrovertEvidentExtroverts Author:Laurie Helgoe
“Introvert conversations are like jazz. Each player gets to solo for a nice stretch before the other player comes in and does his solo.” DoeNicePlayerConversationJazzIntrovertSoloExtroverts Book:Introvert Power: Why Your Inner Life Is Your Hidden Strength Source: Introvert Power: Why Your Inner Life Is Your Hidden Strength
“As an introvert, you can be your own best friend or your worst enemy. The good news is we generally like our own company, a quality that extroverts often envy. We find comfort in solitude and know how to soothe ourselves.” KnowsQualityCompanyEnemyKnow HowWorstComfortSolitudeNewsEnvyIntrovertGood NewsWorst EnemyExtroverts Book:Introvert Power: Why Your Inner Life Is Your Hidden Strength Source: Introvert Power: Why Your Inner Life Is Your Hidden Strength
“Isn't it refreshing to know that what comes perfectly natural for you is your greatest strength? Your power is in your nature. You may not think it's a big deal that you can spend hours immersed in something that interests you-alone-but the extrovert next door has no idea how you do it.” ThinkingKnowsMayIdeasBigsNextInterestHoursNaturalDealsDoorsNo IdeaIntrovertBig DealRefreshingIntroversionExtrovertsPerfectly Natural Author:Laurie Helgoe
“Introverts keep their best stuff inside—that is, until it is ready. And this drives extroverts crazy! The explanation for the introvert’s behavior—and there must be an explanation for this behavior, say the extroverts—is that he or she is antisocial, out of touch, or simply a snob.” StuffCrazyReadyBehaviorExplanationIntrovertSnobAntisocialExtroverts Author:Laurie Helgoe
“Introvert conversations are like jazz, where each player gets to solo for a nice stretch before the other player comes in and does his solo. And like jazz, once we get going, we can play all night. Extrovert conversations are more like tennis matches, where thoughts are batted back and forth, and players need to be ready to respond. Introverts get winded pretty quickly.” NeedsDoePlayNightNicePlayerReadyConversationJazzTennisIntrovertSoloAll NightBack And ForthExtroverts Author:Laurie Helgoe
“Extroverts want us to have fun, because they assume we want what they want. And sometimes we do. But "fun" itself is a "bright" word, the kind of word that comes with flashing lights and an exclamation point! One of Merriam-Webster's definitions of "fun" is "violent or excited activity or argument." The very word makes me want to sit in a dimly lit room with lots of pillows-by myself.” WantKindSometimesLightFunRoomsActivityArgumentAssumingDefinitionsExcitedViolentHaving FunIntrovertLitWant UPillowIntroversionExtrovertsExclamationExclamation PointsFlashing Lights Author:Laurie Helgoe
