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This book is a classic in the field of self-help and psychology, offering readers a profound exploration of the human condition. It delves into the complexities of love, the importance of traditional values, and the journey towards spiritual growth. Written by a renowned psychiatrist, it provides practical advice and thought-provoking reflections on life's challenges and opportunities.
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“God wants us to become himself or herself or itself. We are growing toward Godhood. God is the goal of evolution.”
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“A life of total dedication to the truth also means a life of willingness to be personally challenged.”
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“The more effort we make to appreciate and perceive reality, the larger and more accurate our maps will be. But many do not want to make this effort.”
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“What does a life of total dedication to truth mean? It means, first of all, a life of continuous and never-ending stringent self-examination. We know the world only through our relationship to it. Therefore, to know the world, we must not only examine it but we must simultaneously examine the examiner.”
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“Most do not fully see this truth that life is difficult. Instead they moan more or less incessantly, noisily or subtly, about the enormity of their problems, their burdens, and their difficulties as if life were generally easy, as if life should be easy. They voice their belief, noisily or subtly, that their difficulties represent a unique kind of affliction that should not be and that has somehow been especially visited upon them, or else upon their families, their tribe, their class, their nation, their race or even their species, and not upon others.”
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“If we want to be heard we must speak in a language the listener can understand and on a level at which the listener is capable of operating.”
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“Examination of the world without is never as personally painful as examination of the world within.”
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“I make no distinction between the mind and the spirit, and therefore no distinction between the process of achieving spiritual growth and achieving mental growth. They are one and the same.”
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“Listen to your child enough and you will come to realize that he or she is quite an extraordinary individual. And the more extraordinary you realize your child to be the more you will be willing to listen. And the more you will learn.”
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“If we seek to be loved - if we expect to be loved - this cannot be accomplished; we will be dependent and grasping not genuinely loving.”
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“Our view of reality is like a map with which to negotiate the terrain of life. If the map is true and accurate, we will generally know how to get there. If the map is false and inaccurate, we generally will be lost.”
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“The principal form that the work of love takes is attention. When we love another person we give him or her our attention; we attend to that person's growth.”
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“The difficulty we have in accepting responsibility for our behavior lies in the desire to avoid the pain of the consequences of that behavior.”
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“Problems do not go away. They must be worked through or else they remain, forever a barrier to the growth and development of the spirit.”
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“It is only because of problems that we grow mentally and spiritually.”
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“Ultimately love is everything.”
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“Whenever we seek to avoid the responsibility for our own behavior, we do so by attempting to give that responsibility to some other individual or organization or entity. But this means we then give away our power to that entity.”
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“Real love is a permanently self-enlarging experience.”
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“You cannot truly listen to anyone and do anything else at the same time.”
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“We cannot solve life's problems except by solving them.”
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“One extends one's limits only by exceeding them.”
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“Genuine love is volitional rather than emotional. The person who truely loves does so because of a decision to love. This person has made a commitment to be loving whether or not the loving feeling is present. ...Conversely, it is not only possible but necessary for a loving person to avoid acting on feelings of love.”
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“Life is difficult. This is a great truth, one of the greatest truths. It is a great truth because once we truly see this truth, we transcend it. Once we truly know that life is difficult-once we truly understand and accept it-then life is no longer difficult. Because once it is accepted, the fact that life is difficult no longer matters.”
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“Love is the free exercise of choice. Two people love each other only when they are quite capable of living without each other but choose to live with each other.”
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“With total discipline we can solve all problems.”
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“Spiritually evolved people, by virtue of their discipline, mastery and love, are people of extraordinary competence, and in their competence they are called on to serve the world, and in their love they answer the call.”
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“I define love thus: The will to extend one's self for the purpose of nurturing one's own or another's spiritual growth.”
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“Commitment is inherent in any genuinely loving relationship.”
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“When we avoid the legitimate suffering that results from dealing with problems, we also avoid the growth that problems demand from us.”
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“Nirvana or lasting enlightenment or true spiritual growth can be achieved only through persistent exercise of real love.”
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“Delaying gratification is a process of scheduling the pain and pleasure of life in such a way as to enhance the pleasure by meeting and experiencing the pain first and getting it over with. It is the only decent way to live.”
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“Falling in love is not an extension of one's limits or boundaries; it is a partial and temporary collapse of them.”
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“When we love something it is of value to us, and when something is of value to us we spend time with it, time enjoying it and time taking care of it.”
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“If your goal is to avoid pain and escape suffering, I would not advise you to seek higher levels of consciousness or spiritual evolution.”
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“Courage is not the absence of fear; it is the making of action in spite of fear.”
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“Although the act of nurturing another's spiritual growth has the effect of nurturing one's own, a major characteristic of genuine love is that the distinction between oneself and the other is always maintained and preserved.”
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“The giving up of personality traits, well-established patterns of behavior, ideologies, and even whole life styles...these are major forms of giving up that are required if one is to travel very far on the journey of life.”
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“As Benjamin Franklin said, 'Those things that hurt, instruct.' It is for this reason that wise people learn not to dread but actually to welcome problems and actually to welcome the pain of problems.”
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“The path to holiness lies through questioning everything.”
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“We cannot solve a problem by saying, "It's not my problem." We cannot solve a problem by hoping that someone else will solve it for us. I can solve a problem only when I say, "This is my problem and it's up to me to solve it."”
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“Life is a series of problems. Do we want to moan about them or solve them?”
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“Listening well is an exercise of attention and by necessity hard work. It is because they do not realize this or because they are not willing to do the work that most people do not listen well.”
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“When we love someone our love becomes demonstrable or real only through our exertion - through the fact that for that someone (or for ourself) we take an extra step or walk an extra mile. Love is not effortless. To the contrary, love is effortful.”
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“Love always requires courage and involves risk.”
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“Not only do self-love and love of others go hand in hand but ultimately they are indistinguishable.”
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“The act of loving is an act of self-evolution even when the purpose of the act is someone else's growth.”
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“Mental health is an ongoing process of dedication to reality at all costs”
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“The life of wisdom must be a life of contemplation combined with action.”
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“The only real security in life lies in relishing life's insecurity.”
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“Love is too large, too deep ever to be truly understood or measured or limited within the framework of words.”
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