“I could not kick heroin to save my life, literally, until I started telling my secrets. It was some of the clearest evidence I've ever found of anything. It was the only immediate change in behavior I've ever undergone. I told the most frightening truths, and I was free.” FoundSecretBehaviorEvidenceKicksFrighteningHeroin Author:Melissa Febos
“At a glance, addiction, sex work, mad passion, and all forms of extreme behavior might look like pushing or trying to obliterate boundaries when, more honestly, they are a search for them. I want to find the endpoint, the place where my own powers end, so I can yield to something that I'm certain is bigger than me.” WantTryingLooksI CanEndsMightFormCertainPassionSexMy OwnBehaviorBiggerMadAddictionExtremesHonestlyBoundariesPushingYieldGlancesSex Work Author:Melissa Febos
“S&M is just a set of practices that get classified as a single category, when more accurately they are a part of much larger set of behaviors: expressions of love, and self, and play, and even art. There is no hard line between "vanilla" sex and S&M sex, or any other kind of relation between people.” PeopleKindArtSelfHardPlaySexLinesPracticeExpressionBehaviorRelationCategoriesVanillaExpressions Of Love Author:Melissa Febos
“Behaviors and lifestyles that are classified as "normal" rarely get so generalized, public perception of heterosexual relationships, for instance, or of the "white" experience, allow for the infinite variety of experiences that exist under such headings, but people love to reduce the vastness of individuality and subjectivity within marginalized types of experience.” PeopleWhiteTypeBehaviorNormalPerceptionInfiniteIndividualityLifestyleInstanceVarietyHeadingsSubjectivityVastnessMarginalized Author:Melissa Febos
