“I didn't know enough as a writer to understand why I needed to do this, but I understood in a very gut way that I could not entertain those thoughts of pleasing people and write this book - that it would be a very different book. Without really sort of investigating that instinct, which I'm glad for, I just made a conscious decision to put blinders on and not think about anything and put it all in. And I did. I put everything in. I had to look at the whole picture to see what I needed.” PeopleThinkingKnowsWayWritingLooksMadeBookDifferentEnoughWholeWould BeDecisionNeededConsciousUnderstoodInstinctGladGutsInvestigatingBlindersWhole PictureDifferent BooksPleasing People Author:Melissa Febos
“My father was raised by a violent alcoholic. There was alcoholism in my mother's family. I'm half-adopted, and my birth father was a drug addict and alcoholic. So, I think they very consciously made decisions and parented me in a way that was aimed to help save me from that. So, I knew it would be particularly painful and it was, especially for my father.” ThinkingWayMadeHelpingWould BeMotherFatherDecisionHalfBirthDrugRaisedPainfulViolentAddictAdoptedAlcoholismAlcoholicsDrug AddictSave Me Author:Melissa Febos
“I made a conscious decision when I was writing that book to depict in real time how I treated it, and how I thought about it, and how I portrayed it to other people, because I wanted the story to be one of change from that to a more honest appraisal, a more accepting appraisal of myself and other people in that world.” PeopleWorldWritingMadeBookRealStoriesWantedDecisionAcceptingHonestConsciousTreatedAppraisal Author:Melissa Febos
“I've always looked very closely at people, and seen a lot; that was true even when I was a kid. That's what made me a good domme, but it's also what makes me well suited to being a writer, and a teacher.” PeopleWellsMadeKidsTeacher Author:Melissa Febos
