“Holding anxiety as your own enemy, and that it has to go down, diminish it, go away and not happen here is a kind of self-invalidating, interiorly focused process that would get you even more entangled with these processes. Instead, what we're going to need to learn to do is to allow your history to bring into the present thoughts and feelings and memories, and to sort of hold them mindfully and self-compassionately, and then focus on what you do and bring them along for that journey.” KindFeelingsMemoriesEnemyFocusJourneyAnxietyFocusedGoing Away Author:Steven C. Hayes
“Feelings are only your history being occasioned by the present moment. If that's your enemy, then your history is your enemy. If sensations are your enemy, your body is your enemy. And if memory is your enemy, you'd better have a way of controlling your mind in such a way that you never are reminded of things that are painful from the past. If you avoid people, avoid having your buttons pushed, avoid going to places that might occasion anxiety; if you're hammering down drugs and alcohol; these are all methods of trying to mount that unhealthy agenda.” PeopleTryingMindMomentsFeelingsPastMemoriesEnemyDrugAnxietyPainfulAlcoholPresent Moment Author:Steven C. Hayes
“Could we take anxiety to be something that may be of importance, may even be meaningful? And it says something about your history, and could we learn to sort of hold it in a way that's more compassionate, to sort of bring the frightened part of you close and treat it with some dignity, and keep focused instead on what kind of life you want to live connected to what kind of meaning and purpose. That's going to be a quicker, more self-compassionate and more certain journey forward inside things like panic disorder.” KindPurposeJourneyAnxietyDignityImportanceFocusedMeaningfulCompassionate Author:Steven C. Hayes
“If you aren't willing to have it, you will.” IfsWillingAnxietyCalming Book:Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life: The New Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Source: Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life: The New Acceptance and Commitment Therapy
“Almost all people suffer some form of intense inner pain at some times in their lives. The suffering might be depression, anxiety, substance abuse, or suicidal thoughts and it results from the battles we wage against our thoughts as we futilely try to get rid of our historie.” PeopleTryingMightPainFormSufferingResultsSelf EsteemBattleAnxietyAbuseIntenseEsteemSubstanceOur ThoughtsSuicidalSuicidal ThoughtsSubstance Abuse Author:Steven C. Hayes
