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“If it is your fault that your mother is miserable, it becomes a potentially fixable affront. Taking blame means that at least the hope of love is still there-all you have to do is deserve it.”

Childhood Parents Child Abuse Mothers And Daughters Childhood Trauma Narcissistic Abuse Scapegoat Inferiority Complex Mother Daughter Relationship Attachment Trauma

Book:When You and Your Mother Can't Be Friends: Resolving the Most Complicated Relationship of Your Life

Source: When You and Your Mother Can't Be Friends: Resolving the Most Complicated Relationship of Your Life

“Many daughters live out their lives avoiding or abiding or arguing with their mothers-burying the long-ago injury or insult or childhood deprivation under a blanket of forgetfulness-and not confronting it head-on. It's humiliating to remember the ways in which one demeaned oneself in order to prevent being in a mother's bad graces, the willingness to do anything in order to not be rejected, when rejection felt like death.”

Childhood Parents Rejection Child Abuse Mothers And Daughters Childhood Trauma Scapegoat Inferiority Complex Mother Daughter Relationship Attachment Trauma

Book:When You and Your Mother Can't Be Friends: Resolving the Most Complicated Relationship of Your Life

Source: When You and Your Mother Can't Be Friends: Resolving the Most Complicated Relationship of Your Life

“Another reason it's dangerous to acknowledge that you were unloved is that it implies the possibility that your mother may have been right-you are unlovable.”

Childhood Parents Child Abuse Mothers And Daughters Childhood Trauma Scapegoat Inferiority Complex Mother Daughter Relationship Emotional Neglect Attachment Trauma

Book:When You and Your Mother Can't Be Friends: Resolving the Most Complicated Relationship of Your Life

Source: When You and Your Mother Can't Be Friends: Resolving the Most Complicated Relationship of Your Life

“If your mother lived your life as though it were her own-never allowing you a moment of stress or frustration, routinely sleeping in your bed when you had a bad dream, never setting limits or establishing boundaries, seldom or never letting you out of her sight, excusing and failing to provide consequences for your negative or hurtful behaviour, insisting on a daily chronicle of every detail of your life, all in the name of maternal love-then you never had to grow up and take responsibility for your actions. You remain a child.”

Childhood Parents Child Abuse Mothers And Daughters Childhood Trauma Scapegoat Inferiority Complex Mother Daughter Relationship Attachment Trauma Engulfing Mother

Book:When You and Your Mother Can't Be Friends: Resolving the Most Complicated Relationship of Your Life

Source: When You and Your Mother Can't Be Friends: Resolving the Most Complicated Relationship of Your Life

“It helps enormously to have had a loving mother. Mothers can give their daughters permission to love their fathers. Mothers can help their daughters feel good about becoming mothers. Mothers can help daughters learn the value of openness and female friendship, especially when times are bad,”

Parenting Mothers Parents And Children Mothers And Daughters Female Friendship

Book:Women and Their Fathers: The Sexual and Romantic Impact of the First Man in Your Life

Source: Women and Their Fathers: The Sexual and Romantic Impact of the First Man in Your Life

“A girl's sense of her womanly self depends only in part on how closely she has followed her mother's example in attire and actions, or how much she loves or hates or respects her. It is from both parents that a girl gains her basic identity.”

Parenting Mothers Sense Of Self Mothers And Daughters Fathers And Daughters

Book:Women and Their Fathers: The Sexual and Romantic Impact of the First Man in Your Life

Source: Women and Their Fathers: The Sexual and Romantic Impact of the First Man in Your Life