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“If it is your fault that your mother is miserable, it becomes a potentially fixable affront. Taking blame means that at least the hope of love is still there-all you have to do is deserve it.”

Childhood Parents Child Abuse Mothers And Daughters Childhood Trauma Narcissistic Abuse Scapegoat Inferiority Complex Mother Daughter Relationship Attachment Trauma

Book:When You and Your Mother Can't Be Friends: Resolving the Most Complicated Relationship of Your Life

Source: When You and Your Mother Can't Be Friends: Resolving the Most Complicated Relationship of Your Life

“Many daughters live out their lives avoiding or abiding or arguing with their mothers-burying the long-ago injury or insult or childhood deprivation under a blanket of forgetfulness-and not confronting it head-on. It's humiliating to remember the ways in which one demeaned oneself in order to prevent being in a mother's bad graces, the willingness to do anything in order to not be rejected, when rejection felt like death.”

Childhood Parents Rejection Child Abuse Mothers And Daughters Childhood Trauma Scapegoat Inferiority Complex Mother Daughter Relationship Attachment Trauma

Book:When You and Your Mother Can't Be Friends: Resolving the Most Complicated Relationship of Your Life

Source: When You and Your Mother Can't Be Friends: Resolving the Most Complicated Relationship of Your Life

“Another reason it's dangerous to acknowledge that you were unloved is that it implies the possibility that your mother may have been right-you are unlovable.”

Childhood Parents Child Abuse Mothers And Daughters Childhood Trauma Scapegoat Inferiority Complex Mother Daughter Relationship Emotional Neglect Attachment Trauma

Book:When You and Your Mother Can't Be Friends: Resolving the Most Complicated Relationship of Your Life

Source: When You and Your Mother Can't Be Friends: Resolving the Most Complicated Relationship of Your Life

“If your mother lived your life as though it were her own-never allowing you a moment of stress or frustration, routinely sleeping in your bed when you had a bad dream, never setting limits or establishing boundaries, seldom or never letting you out of her sight, excusing and failing to provide consequences for your negative or hurtful behaviour, insisting on a daily chronicle of every detail of your life, all in the name of maternal love-then you never had to grow up and take responsibility for your actions. You remain a child.”

Childhood Parents Child Abuse Mothers And Daughters Childhood Trauma Scapegoat Inferiority Complex Mother Daughter Relationship Attachment Trauma Engulfing Mother

Book:When You and Your Mother Can't Be Friends: Resolving the Most Complicated Relationship of Your Life

Source: When You and Your Mother Can't Be Friends: Resolving the Most Complicated Relationship of Your Life

“One only has to watch aging siblings scrap over the worthless pots and pans and scuffed furniture of a deceased parent's estate- like toddlers over toys- to see how desperate is the need to wrest some last, pathetic, tangible measure of their parent's devotion.”

Parenting Parents Parents And Children Siblings Sibling Rivalry

Book:Women and Their Fathers: The Sexual and Romantic Impact of the First Man in Your Life

Source: Women and Their Fathers: The Sexual and Romantic Impact of the First Man in Your Life