“With gratitude, I have become a healing balm to thousands of people, if not more, who have suffered child abuse, sibling abuse, a dysfunctional family, narcissistic abuse, sexual assaults, and hellish traumatic events. Most importantly, other trauma survivors know they are not alone.”
Source: Toxic Siblings: A Survival Guide to Rise Above Sibling Abuse & Heal Trauma
“The scapegoat is the family punching bag. On a daily basis, you are singled out for all of the collective ridicule, made into the butt of every joke, and excluded from family events, holidays, and important legal matters. It doesn't take long for outsiders or other relatives to take note of your role and to be drawn into the destructive dynamics. Family scapegoats are belittled, humiliated, battered, rejected, betrayed, and treated poorly. It's a clear case of psychological abuse, manipulation, and harassment.”
Source: Toxic Siblings: A Survival Guide to Rise Above Sibling Abuse & Heal Trauma
“He knew you can't really be strong until you can see a funny side of things.”
Source: One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest
“As we follow and respond, our people have the opportunity to teach us about the intricacies of our multigenerational inner world and the processes that can heal at such a deep level.”
Source: The Heart of Trauma: Healing the Embodied Brain in the Context of Relationships
“After spending five decades of being beaten down, mistreated, and stabbed in the back, little Dana grew up. Little Dana fearlessly faced her trauma wounds. Little Dana cracked open that terrifying door to process and to address everything. And when I write everything, I mean ‘every rotten thing said and done to harm me.’ Everything from my early childhood sexual abuse, child neglect, psychological abuse, physical abuse, unfit parenting by my narcissistic mother, to my sister’s spouse who sexually assaulted me, to every imaginable covert scheme by my six toxic siblings (AKA Flying Monkeys) who sadistically enjoyed hurting me. They each took great pleasure in trying to destroy me, my life, my health, my relationships, my career, and my reputation.”
Source: Toxic Siblings: A Survival Guide to Rise Above Sibling Abuse & Heal Trauma
“The dysfunctional family relationships are disastrous. Poisonous. There can't be reconciliation. We cannot restore a destructive relationship with abusive siblings when they won't repent. Repentance requires them to turn away from their transgressions and evil schemes. In most cases, toxic siblings won't repent.”
Source: Toxic Siblings: A Survival Guide to Rise Above Sibling Abuse & Heal Trauma
“SIX ROLES OF THE DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILY:
1. The Narcissist
2. The Enabling Parent
3. The Golden Child
4. The Forgotten Child
5. The Bully Sibling
6. The Family Scapegoat”
Source: Toxic Siblings: A Survival Guide to Rise Above Sibling Abuse & Heal Trauma
“Family mobbing is a strategic process of power and coercive control. What makes mobbing so insidious - and so underreported - is that here, the family is the site of violence, trauma, and shame.”
Source: Toxic Siblings: A Survival Guide to Rise Above Sibling Abuse & Heal Trauma
“Orangtua adalah pekerjaan yang kesepian. Kalau emosi mereka menemukan jalur pelampiasan, mereka akan terus meneroka jalur itu.”
Source: On Children
“The people in my life found spaces to rest while navigating a racist culture, and they worked themselves into a deadly grind cycle to survive. They straddled the lines between exhaustion and always thriving. They moved mountains with their faith alone and created pathways for invention that I am still uncovering. They resisted every moment by existing in a world that was not welcoming or caring.”
Source: Rest Is Resistance: A Manifesto