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“False accusations of harm are used to avoid acknowledgment of complicity in creating conflict and instead escalate normative conflict to the level of crisis. This choice to punish rather than resolve is a product of distorted thinking, and relies on reinforcement of negative group relationships, when instead these ideolo- gies should be actively challenged. Through this over-statement of harm, false accusations are used to justify cruelty, while shunning keeps information from entering into the process. Resistance to shunning, exclusion, and unilateral control, while necessary, are mischaracterized as harm and used to re-justify more escalation towards bullying, state intervention, and violence. Emphasizing communication and repair, instead of shunning and separation, is the key to transforming these paradigms.”

Book:Conflict Is Not Abuse: Overstating Harm, Community Responsibility, and the Duty of Repair

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Conflict Is Not Abuse: Overstating Harm, Community Responsibility, and the Duty of Repair

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Sarah Schulman

Sarah Schulman is an American novelist known for her profound insights into the LGBTQ+ community and her exploration of historical themes. Her works often focus on issues of gender, race, and class, and how these factors intertwine to influence individuals and society. more

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Source: The Plague

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Source: A Hollywood Ending

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Book:Harp and the Lyre: Extraction

Source: Harp and the Lyre: Extraction