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“Awareness of having better things to do with their lives is the secret to immunizing our children against false values--whether presented on television or in "real life." The child who finds fulfillment in music or reading or cooking or swimming or writing or drawing is not as easily convinced that he needs recognition or power or some "high" to feel worthwhile.”

Quote by Polly Berrien Berends

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Whole child, whole parent

This book explores the interconnectedness of a child's well-being and a parent's role in that process, offering insights and strategies for holistic parenting. more

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Polly Berrien Berends

Polly Berrien Berends is an unknown scholar, born on December 1, 1939. Her life and achievements have not been well documented. more

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