“He who knows how to wait need make no concessions.”
Source: Group Psychology and The Analysis of The Ego
“Women never bought Freud's idea of penis envy: who would want a shotgun when you can have an automatic?”
Source: Woman: An Intimate Geography
“The problem with patience and discipline is that it requires both of them to develop each of them.”
“Early relational trauma results from the fact that we are often given more to experience in this life than we can bear to experience consciously. This problem has been around since the beginning of time, but it is especially acute in early childhood where, because of the immaturity of the psyche and/or brain, we are ill-equipped to metabolize our experience. An infant or young child who is abused, violated or seriously neglected by a caretaking adult is overwhelmed by intolerable affects that are impossible for it to metabolize, much less understand or even think about.”
Source: Trauma and the Soul: A Psycho-Spiritual Approach to Human Development and Its Interruption
“All things, even the deepest sorrow or the most profound happiness are all temporary. Hope is fuel for the soul, without hope, forward motion ceases.”
Source: First Night of Summer
“You don't think your way to a new way of living. You live your way to a new way of thinking.”
Source: Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships
“Being in a state of denial is a
universally human response to
situations which threaten to
overwhelm. People who were abused
as children sometimes carry their
denial like precious cargo without a
port of destination. It enabled us to
survive our childhood experiences, and often we still live in survival mode decades beyond the actual abuse. We protect ourselves to excess because we learned abruptly and painfully that no one else would.”
Source: Becoming One: A Story of Triumph Over Dissociative Identity Disorder
“Mr. Grace sounded like a very small child, helpless, hopeless. I had made him fuck himself with his own big tool, like one of those weird experiences you read about in the Penthouse Forum. I had taken off his witch doctor's mask and made him human. But I didn't hold it against him. To err is only human, but it's divine to forgive. I believe that sincerely.”
Source: Rage
“I explain to my patients that abused children often find it hard to disentangle themselves from their dysfunctional families, whereas children grow away from good, loving parents with far less conflict. After all, isn't that the task of a good parent, to enable the child to leave home?”
Source: Momma and the Meaning of Life: Tales of Psychotherapy – A Therapist's Clinical Stories of Memorable Patients and Transformation
“You can be happy with money and you can be wretched with it. It depends on what kind of person you are. -- A Prologue to Love”