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“Writing the short story is essentially an act of grace. It's not a matter of will so much as trust. I try to let the story do some of the work for me. It knows what it wants to do, say, be. I try not to stand in its way.”

Quote by Paulette Alden

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Paulette Alden is an American author born in 1947. Her works span various literary genres, including novels, poetry, and drama. Alden is known for her unique narrative style and profound insights into human nature. more

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