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“The political strategy of victimizing prostitutes also serves this purpose of branding male desire and confining it in its own squalor. He can pay to come if he wants, but he'll have to rub shoulders with filth, shame, and poverty. The prostitution transaction -- "I pay you, you satisfy me" -- is the basis of the heterosexual contract. It is hypocritical to pretend, as we do, that this transaction is foreign to our culture.”

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Virginie Despentes
Virginie Despentes

Virginie Despentes is a French writer born on June 13, 1969. Known for her sharp social criticism and feminist perspective, her works include novels such as 'Bitch' and 'Bad Girls'. more

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