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“The offspring cannot rely on its parents for disinterested guidance. One expects the offspring to be preprogrammed to resist some parental manipulation while being open to other forms. When the parent imposes an arbitrary system of reinforcement (punishment and reward) in order to manipulate the offspring to act against its own best interests, selection will favor offspring that resist such schedules of reinforcement.”

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Social Evolution

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Robert Trivers
Robert Trivers

Robert Trivers is a renowned biologist known for his contributions to the field of evolutionary biology. Born on February 19, 1943, he has conducted significant research on the mechanisms of deception and detection of deception in the process of evolution, and how these mechanisms affect the behavior and evolution of organisms. more

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