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“No matter how your body and brain responded, what happened wasn’t your fault. If you fought with everything you had but were still overpowered, that’s not your fault. If you tried to run away but couldn’t, that’s not your fault. If fighting or fleeing didn’t seem like safe options, that’s not your fault. If your automatic survival response was to comply and attempt to please, that’s not your fault.”

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Book:We Are the Evidence: A Handbook for Finding Your Way After Sexual Assault
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