“Never be a blind follower of any people in your life. Because, whatever people demonstrate themselves outside, in reality they may the opposite inside. Always judge the facts or situation by using your own intuition and work accordingly. You will never be deprived and deceived by others in your life.”
“Deprived
***
I could never initiate
Any bond because
My life was devoid of happiness;
The world is for a happy life.”
“But what do you do when trauma distorts love into something cloying and fraught? Unresolved ghosts just grow stronger across generations, destroying children with the very things their parents swore to save them from.”
Source: Feeding Ghosts: A Graphic Memoir
“Healing generational trauma takes courage and strength. It’s common for dysfunctional families to deny their abuse. They silence victims and dump toxic shame onto them. Complicit families keep abuse alive from generation to generation, until one brave survivor boldly ends the cycle of abuse.”
Source: Soul Rescue: How to Break Free From Narcissistic Abuse & Heal Trauma
“Your pain didn't start with you, but it can end with you.”
Source: Reclaim Your Life After Trauma
“Nobody goes no contact with a loving, caring, gentle, safe family. They end toxic relationships because all the other alternatives were exhausted and unsuccessful. They broke connections to abusive people because it was their last resort.”
Source: Toxic Siblings: A Survival Guide to Rise Above Sibling Abuse & Heal Trauma
“This toxic pattern within the broken family system will continue from one generation to the next, until one brave survivor finally ends the cycle of abuse. The dysfunction, bullying, and abuse didn’t start with you, but it most certainly can end with you.”
Source: Soul Rescue: How to Break Free From Narcissistic Abuse & Heal Trauma
“After a moment, he calmed enough to see how his anger was a separate thing inside him, a dingy, surprise gift from his father.”
Source: The Dream Thieves
“Where does the pain go when we die?
does it stay in the bed as it begins to stink—
does it racket through the home like a scream—
do the children inherit it like a sprawling estate—
And where does it go while we live?
Maybe the pain is like me, desperate to be seen in the lives of those around me. I will abandon others again and again until I can finally be free of my own abandonment.”
Source: The Sea Once Swallowed Me: A Memoir of Love, Solitude, and the Limits of Language
“THE NO CONTACT RULE:
1. Zero contact; face to face & online.
2. No phone calls.
3. No text messaging.
4. No attending events where they're present.
5. No emails.
6. No letters, cards, or gifts.
7. No checking their social media profile.
8. No contacting their family and friends.
9. No combing through old photographs.
10. No going down memory lane.
11. Zero communication.”
Source: Toxic Siblings: A Survival Guide to Rise Above Sibling Abuse & Heal Trauma