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“It is only when we feel deprived that we resent giving to others. Self-care does not mean you stop caring about others; it just means you start caring more about you. Start thinking about yourself more and others less. Since you have a choice between taking care of someone else, or giving to yourself, try choosing yourself sometimes.”

Book:The Right to Innocence: Healing the Trauma of Childhood Sexual Abuse: A Therapeutic 7-Step Self-Help Program for Men and Women, Including How to Choose a Therapist and Find a Support Group

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The Right to Innocence: Healing the Trauma of Childhood Sexual Abuse: A Therapeutic 7-Step Self-Help Program for Men and Women, Including How to Choose a Therapist and Find a Support Group

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Beverly Engel

Beverly Engel is a renowned psychotherapist specializing in the fields of emotional and mental health. Her work involves helping individuals overcome fears, anxieties, and other psychological barriers. Although her exact birth and death years are unknown, her influence and contributions to the field of psychotherapy are significant. more

“The Karpman drama triangle is a classic model of codependent behaviour. First of all, a codependent will rescue someone. Then, when their ‘brave and charitable’ work hasn’t been acknowledged, they become very angry at the person they have attempted to rescue. And finally, they start to feel like a victim. They feel sorry for themselves and complain how the person they rescued never appreciated them. The important thing to learn here is that if a person wants to change, it’s because they have made a decision to do so.”

Addiction Addiction And Recovery Addictive Behaviour Addictiveness Codependence Drama Triangle The Karpman Drama Triangle

Book:The Kindness Habit: Transforming our Relationship to Addictive Behaviours

Source: The Kindness Habit: Transforming our Relationship to Addictive Behaviours

“The martyr sacrifices herself entirely in vain. Or rather not in vain; for she makes the selfish more selfish, the lazy more lazy, the narrow narrower.”

Codependence

Book:Ever Yours, Florence Nightingale: Selected Letters

Source: Ever Yours, Florence Nightingale: Selected Letters

“Any discussion of male codependency, even one rooted in early attachment dis-ruption, must address the pressures of the social-norm context for male devel-opment. These pressures are often referred to in the literature as “gender role strain.” Gender role strain in men has been identified as either the failure to fulfill male role expectations or the traumatic fulfillment of these expectations, and their negative consequences. One proposed cause of gender role strain is the early gender role socialization process which begins within the family context and is supported by a larger cultural socialization based on patriarchy.”

Patriarchy Masculinity Social Norms Codependence Male Socialization Gender Role Strain

Book:Codependency & Men

Source: Codependency & Men