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“This got him to the door. There, ridiculously, he turned. It was only at the door, he decided in retrospect, that her conduct was quite in excusable: not only did she stand unncessarily close, but, by shifting the weight of her body to one leg and leaning her head sidewise, she lowered her height several inches, placing him in a dominating position exactly suited to the broad, passive shadows she must have known were on her face." (“Snowing in Greenwich Village")”

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The Maples Stories

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John Updike
John Updike

John Updike was an American novelist known for his profound insights into middle-class life and his delicate narrative skills. His works spanned a wide range of genres from short stories to novels, including the classic 'Rabbit, Run' series and 'The Centaur'. more

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“The best couples share the load, divide the grief, and add to the peace, thereby multiplying joy.”

“Salimos, cenamos, nos reímos un rato y al dejarla en su casa me dijo «Creo que me gustás mucho. Es algo de ese misterio que tenés, o algo de lo extraño y raro que sos, lo que me tiene constantemente pensando en vos». No sabía qué decir, nunca supe cómo reaccionar a las emociones de otras personas. Me reí y le di una palmadita en la cabeza. Hasta ahora me pregunto qué fue lo que pensé para hacer eso; no era mi mascota, no era un perro ni nada por el estilo pero no se me ocurría otra forma de demostrarle una especie de afecto.”

“Turbulence during a relationship does not mean its core, foundation and essence changes. Couples will run into obstacles. The challenge may knock the wind out of them, but it does not have to cripple their resolve. Both people must trust that on the other side of crisis still exist the qualities you appreciate.”

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