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“The fact is, rape is utterly commonplace in all our cultures. It is part of the fabric of everyday life, yet we all act as if it’s something shocking and extraordinary whenever it hits the headlines. We remain silent, and so we condone it…Until rape, and the structures – sexism, inequality, tradition – that make it possible, are part of our dinner-table conversation with the next generation, it will continue. Is it polite and comfortable to talk about it? No. Must we anyway? Yes.” ‘To protect our children, we must talk to them about rape”

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Desmond Tutu
Desmond Tutu

Desmond Tutu, born on October 7, 1931, was a prominent anti-apartheid activist, theologian, and author from South Africa. He played a significant role in the abolition of apartheid in South Africa and was awarded the Nobel Peace Prize in 1984 for his efforts. more

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