“Raising a daughter is an extremely political act in this culture. Mothers have been placed in a no-win situation with their daught ers: if they teach their daughters simply how to get along in a world that has been shaped by men and male desires, then they betray their daughters' potential But, if they do not, they leave their daughters adrift in a hostile world without survival strategies.” IfsMenWorldHas BeensPoliticalMotherDesireCultureWinningSituationTeachSurvivalDaughterStrategyMalesBetrayHostileMother DaughterAdrift Author:Elizabeth Debold
“Every virtuous woman desires a husband to whom she can look for guidance and protection through this world. God has placed this desire in woman's nature. It should be respected by the stronger sex. Any man who takes advantage of this, and humbles a daughter of Eve to rob her of her virtue, and cast her off dishonored and defiled, is her destroyer, and is responsible to God for the deed.” MenWorldShouldLooksDesireSexVirtueThis WorldHusbandDaughterAdvantageStrongerResponsibleCastsDeedsProtectionGuidanceVirtuousDestroyersVirtuous Woman Book:Journal of Discourses Source: Journal of Discourses
“Both men and women are conceived as merely capable of response to a situation that their society has already defined for them as sexual, and so the Arapesh feel that it is necessary to chaperon betrothed couples who are too young... with their definition of sex as a response to an external situation rather than as spontaneous desire, both men and women are regarded as helpless in the face of seduction. Parents warn their sons even more than they warn their daughters against permitting themselves to get into situations in which someone can make love to them.” MenFeelsFacesYoungDesireSexParentSituationSonCoupleCapableDaughterMen And WomenResponseDefinitionsDefinedHelplessMaking LoveSpontaneousSeduction Author:Margaret Mead
“The deeper purpose of a more positive attitude toward men is a better life for the children who are parented by the men who are their dads and stepdads; less shame for our sons who will become men; and, for our daughters, a deeper understanding of men's desire to please that leaves them feeling their willingness to please is not unrequited but returned - allowing our daughters to feel less lonely and more loved. If we earn more and love less, we pay for a home in which we do not live.” IfsMenFeelsChildrenFeelingsHomeDesirePurposeUnderstandingPayAttitudeHe ManSonDadPleaseDaughterLonelyAnd LoveShameDeeperPositive AttitudeWillingnessAllowingBetter LifeUnrequitedOur DaughterDeeper UnderstandingStepdads Author:Warren Farrell
“I was raised the Chinese way: I was taught to desire nothing, to swallow other people's misery, to eat my own bitterness. And even though I taught my daughter the opposite, still she came out the same way! Maybe it is because she was born to me and she was born a girl. And I was born to my mother and I was born a girl. All of us are like stairs, one step after another, going up and down, but all going the same way.” PeopleWayStillsMotherDesireGirlBornMy OwnStepsGenerationsTaughtDaughterOppositesMiseryRaisedChineseMy DaughterBitternessUp And DownStairs Author:Amy Tan
“[T]he syndrome known as life is too diffuse to admit of palliation. For every symptom that is eased, another is made worse. The horse leech's daughter is a closed system. Her quantum of wantum cannot vary.” LifeMadeLife IsDesireKnownDaughterHorsePessimismQuantumSymptomsVarySyndromesLeeches Book:Murphy Source: Murphy
“How deep is our desire to do better than our mothers--to bring daughters into adulthood strong and fierce yet loving and gentle, adventurous and competitive but still nurturing and friendly, sweet yet sharp. We know as working women that we can't quite have it all, but that hasn't stopped us from wanting it all for them.” KnowsStillsMotherDesireStrongWorkSweetDaughterGentleFriendlyFierceAdulthoodAdventurousNurturingWorking Women Author:Anne Roiphe