“The reason why Ango and I were able to be by his side was that we understood the solitude that surrounded him, and we never stepped inside it no matter how close we stood. But in that moment, I kind of regretted not stepping in and invading that solitude.” RegretFriendsHuman ConnectionFear Of RejectionFear Of Being KnownFear Of Not Being Known Book:文豪ストレイドッグス 太宰治と黒の時代 [Bungō Stray Dogs - Dazai Osamu to kuro no jidai] Source: 文豪ストレイドッグス 太宰治と黒の時代 [Bungō Stray Dogs - Dazai Osamu to kuro no jidai]
“Healthy people understand that others have the capacity to choose to end relationships and it serves as motivation for them to learn to relate in healthy and loving ways. However, when we are driven by shame, we don't just fear losing a relationship, but we live in terror that if we let anyone really get to know us, we would never be desired, pursued, or loved. In us, that fear can be worked out in the development of unhealthy denial, workaholism, perfectionism, chameleon-type behavior, and sadly, even revictimization... When we live in denial or present a false self out of fear... we will do anything to be accepted by people... When we begin to tell the truth about what happened to us we also begin the process of turning about from this type of idolatry... When we begin to tear away our layers of illegitimate shame... When our own vision is not distorted by our shame we can discern what was our responsibility and what wasn't.” ShameVulnerableAbuse SurvivorsHealing InsightsWorkaholicChameleonSelf HateWearing A MaskUnhealthy RelationshipsDysfunctional RelationshipsFalse SelfHiding From The PastUnhealthy HabitsFear Of IntimacyRevictimizationUnhealthy CopingFear Of Being KnownBeing ExposedChameleon Type BehaviorFast Of Being AloneFast Of RejectionFear Of Being Found OutFear Of Exposure Book:Growing a Passionate Heart Source: Growing a Passionate Heart