“As I discussed in the previous chapter, attachment researchers have shown that our earliest caregivers don't only feed us, dress us, and comfort us when we are upset; they shape the way our rapidly growing brain perceives reality. Our interactions with our caregivers convey what is safe and what is dangerous: whom we can count on and who will let us down; what we need to do to get our needs met. This information is embodied in the warp and woof of our brain circuitry and forms the template of how we think of ourselves and the world around us. These inner maps are remarkably stable across time. This doesn‘t mean, however, that our maps can‘t be modified by experience. A deep love relationship, particularly during adolescence, when the brain once again goes through a period of exponential change, truly can transform us. So can the birth of a child, as our babies often teach us how to love. Adults who were abused or neglected as children can still learn the beauty of intimacy and mutual trust or have a deep spiritual experience that opens them to a larger universe. In contrast, previously uncontaminated childhood maps can become so distorted by an adult rape or assault that all roads are rerouted into terror or despair. These responses are not reasonable and therefore cannot be changed simply by reframing irrational beliefs.” TraumaParentsChild AbuseRapeMind And BodyAbuse SurvivorsSurvivorsWorld ViewHealing InsightsSurvivors Of AbuseComplex PtsdMind Body ConnectionAbusive ParentsEffects Of Child AbuseRape SurvivorsCare Givers Book:The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma Source: The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma
“Eighty two percent of the traumatized children seen in the National Child Traumatic Stress Network do not meet diagnostic criteria for PTSD.15 Because they often are shut down, suspicious, or aggressive they now receive pseudoscientific diagnoses such as “oppositional defiant disorder,” meaning “This kid hates my guts and won’t do anything I tell him to do,” or “disruptive mood dysregulation disorder,” meaning he has temper tantrums. Having as many problems as they do, these kids accumulate numerous diagnoses over time. Before they reach their twenties, many patients have been given four, five, six, or more of these impressive but meaningless labels. If they receive treatment at all, they get whatever is being promulgated as the method of management du jour: medications, behavioral modification, or exposure therapy. These rarely work and often cause more damage.” AggressiveChild AbusePtsdDisruptiveTraumatizedMisdiagnosisChild Abuse SurvivorsComplex TraumaTraumatic StressMental Health BiasTemper TantrumsChild TraumaPsuedoscience Book:The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma Source: The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma