“When you have a persistent sense of heartbreak and gutwrench, the physical sensations become intolerable and we will do anything to make those feelings disappear. And that is really the origin of what happens in human pathology. People take drugs to make it disappear, and they cut themselves to make it disappear, and they starve themselves to make it disappear, and they have sex with anyone who comes along to make it disappear and once you have these horrible sensations in your body, you’ll do anything to make it go away.” CuttingHeartbreakMental IllnessPtsdOverwhelmedEmotional PainAnorexiaEating DisorderSelf HarmTraumatizedRecklessnessSelf InjuryCoping MechanismsSex AddictionStarveCutTraumatic StressSelf Destructive BehaviorAnorexia NervosaEmotional RegulationEmotional ReleaseCutterIntolerableGut WrenchingAffect RegulationEating Disorder CausesEmotionally Numb Author:Bessel A. van der Kolk
“Generally the rational brain can override the emotional brain, as long as our fears don’t hijack us. (For example, your fear at being flagged down by the police can turn instantly to gratitude when the cop warns you that there’s an accident ahead.) But the moment we feel trapped, enraged, or rejected, we are vulnerable to activating old maps and to follow their directions. Change begins when we learn to "own" our emotional brains. That means learning to observe and tolerate the heartbreaking and gut-wrenching sensations that register misery and humiliation. Only after learning to bear what is going on inside can we start to befriend, rather than obliterate, the emotions that keep our maps fixed and immutable.” FeelingsBrainEmotionsMiseryTraumaHumiliationHealing The PastWorld ViewHealing InsightsTraumatizedHealing The Emotional SelfComplex PtsdHealing AbuseComplex TraumaTrauma TherapyGut Wrenching Book:The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma Source: The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma