“This is what we desire in intimate relationships but this deep connection is often so frightful that most do not take advantage of the opportunities presented for honesty.” LoveRelationshipsHonestyChaosFamiliesDysfunctionIntimancy Author:David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough
“When one person attempts to “fix it” for the other person, the connection of acceptance is snapped and the sender and receiver miss an opportunity for understanding.” LoveUnderstandingChangeAcceptanceShameChaosRecoveryJudgementFamiliesDysfunctional Author:David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough
“Children have empty erasable white boards upon which big people write indelibly imprinted messages into their tender subconscious minds.” LoveChangeChaosRecoveryMaturityFamiliesDysfunctional FamiliesDysfunctionalChildren Parenting Author:David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough
“Mature adults gravitate toward new values and understandings, not just rehashing and blind acceptance of past patterns and previous learning. This is an ongoing process and maturity demands lifelong learners.” LoveChildrenUnderstandingChangeFamilyChaosMaturityFamiliesDysfunctional FamiliesDysfunctional Author:David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough
“As a parent who raised his children in dysfunction, I know the parental wounds my children received were not intentional; often they were my best expression of love, sometimes coming out sideways, not as I intended.” LoveChangeFamilyParentingChaosFamiliesDysfunctional FamiliesDysfunctionalParental AbuseChildhood WoundsChaso Author:David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough
“The key problem I encounter working with wounded, depressed, and unhappy people is a lack of connection…starting from a disconnection from themselves and then with others. This is why love often becomes so distorted and destructive. When people experience a disconnection from themselves, they feel it but do not realize the problem.” LoveJoyChangeShameUnhappyRecoveryDepressedFamiliesDysfunctional FamiliesDysfunctionalDisconnectionChnageShame Recovery Author:David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough
“Consider letting go of the barriers between yourself and others, let go of the definition our culture has inflicted upon us and allow the best part of ourselves to connect with the wondrous parts of others. Allow yourself to connect in a deeper and more profound way.” LoveChangeShameRecoveryConnectionBarriersFamiliesWallsDysfunctional FamiliesDysfunctional Author:David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough
“The truth is, we tend to train people how we want to be treated. If others know you have wishy-washy boundaries then they are free to walk all over you; the results…you become a doormat. We have actually trained others to do this when we will allow people to wipe their muddy feet on us. After all, we are doormats.” LoveChangeBoundariesRecoveryFamiliesCodependencyDysfunctionalDoormat Author:David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough
“When I learned about the gray existing between the black and white of absolute terms, I began to experience more peace. The more I expanded my gray areas (more than 50 shades), the more peace I experienced in my life.” LoveChangeShameRecoveryBlack And WhiteGreyFamiliesDysfunctionalAcceptence Author:David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough
“You did not invent these family habits. Your family is like mine, for thousands and thousands of years our families have embraced a dysfunctional lifestyle, passing these habits as gospel on to subsequent generations. This was not done out of malice, spite, or hate, but what they knew best. As ineffective as these habits are, you never stopped to consider another way of loving.” LoveJoyShameRecoveryFamiliesDysfunctional FamiliesDysfunctionalAcceptence Author:David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough
“Black and white thinking limits understanding and feedback, two necessary ingredients for successful resolution in creative conflict and successful understanding.” ThinkingLoveChangeTrustCommunicationChaosRecoveryControlBlack And WhiteFamiliesDysfunctional Author:David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough
“No one escapes some degree of chaos for it is so ever prevalent; it is the human experience. This realization does not mean we can’t improve. It does mean we can accept our state of chaos, lighten up on ourselves, have fun, and work on improving…we are a work in progress. Enjoy the journey.” LoveJoyChangeProgressShameChaosRecoveryJourney Of LifeFamiliesDysfunctional FamiliesDysfunctional Author:David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough
“What are humans meant to do; why are we here? Are we a mutation on the earth destroying its host? Are we a cancer destined to kill what supports us? I think not. So exploring this question is a powerful exercise in meaning; what is the meaning of human existence?” LoveChangeShameRecoveryMeaningIntrospectionFamiliesDysfunctional FamiliesDysfunctional Author:David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough
“...the state of perfection is an elusive goal; demanding something so obscure as almost unattainable and can become a compulsive, crazy making squirrel-on-a-wheel way of living.” LoveJoyPerfectionShameChaosFamiliesDysfunctionalAcceptenceCrazy MakingChange Recovery Author:David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough
“Honoring your word is the fiber from which trust is built.” LoveTrustChaosRecoveryFamiliesDysfunctional FamiliesDysfunctionalSelf Esteem Honor Author:David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough
“When you wear a mask, you are not real.” LoveRealChangeTrustChaosRecoveryFamiliesDysfunctional Author:David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough
“When you journey inwardly exploring yourself, a sense of personal trust begins.” LoveChangeFamilySelf EsteemTrustChaosFamiliesDysfunctional FamiliesDysfunctional Author:David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough
“People pay a dear price when not dealing with the powerful emotions.” LoveRealChangeEmotionsChaosRecoveryFamiliesDysfunctional Author:David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough
“Controlling others is the cornerstone of dysfunctional families.” LoveChaosControlFamily RelationshipsFamiliesControl IssuesControllingAcceptence Author:David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough
“Our parents were our first gods. If parents are loving, nurturing, and kind, this becomes the child’s definition of the creator. If parents were controlling, angry, and manipulative, then this becomes their definition.” LoveSpiritualityChangeHurtChaosSpiritual GrowthSpiritual WisdomGodsFamiliesDysfunctional FamiliesDysfunctional Author:David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough
“The greater the pain associated with love, the more likely a person is to be attracted to others who will inflict this pain…for isn’t this what love is? Hurt people tend to hurt other people.” LovePainRelationshipsHurtFamilyAttractionRelationship AdviceFamiliesDysfunctional FamiliesDysfunctionalChange Recovery Author:David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough