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“Reality may not be what you want it to be, but it is the reality you now must face. You can deny this reality and try to wish it away, or you can accept it and not waste any energy on wanting it to be different.”

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Author:David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough

“Making amends is not only saying the words but also being willing to listen to how your behavior caused another’s pain, and then the really hard part…changing behavior.”

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Author:David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough

“When one person attempts to “fix it” for the other person, the connection of acceptance is snapped and the sender and receiver miss an opportunity for understanding.”

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Author:David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough

“Children have empty erasable white boards upon which big people write indelibly imprinted messages into their tender subconscious minds.”

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Author:David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough

“Shame is a powerful feeling. There is a tremendous difference between making a mistake and believing you are a mistake...If I don’t see myself as being a mistake then it is I who must take responsibility and I am not ready to accept that.”

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Author:David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough

“Wounded parents often unintentionally inflict pain and suffering on their children and these childhood wounds causes a laundry list of maladaptive behaviors commonly called codependency. These habits restrict people to love-limiting relationships causing much unhappiness and distress.”

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“If you are looking for love under rocks or bringing home water moccasins, you might be confusing love and pain.”

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Author:David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough

“Everyone needs a place to be honest.”

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Author:David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough

“Sitting on the hot seat of change requires much courage, patience, and persistence.”

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Author:David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough

“The strange part about a person’s lack of trust is that it often comes from not trusting themselves.”

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Author:David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough

“The more judgmental a person is the sadder they are.”

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Author:David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough

“The key problem I encounter working with wounded, depressed, and unhappy people is a lack of connection…starting from a disconnection from themselves and then with others. This is why love often becomes so distorted and destructive. When people experience a disconnection from themselves, they feel it but do not realize the problem.”

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“Consider letting go of the barriers between yourself and others, let go of the definition our culture has inflicted upon us and allow the best part of ourselves to connect with the wondrous parts of others. Allow yourself to connect in a deeper and more profound way.”

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Author:David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough

“The truth is, we tend to train people how we want to be treated. If others know you have wishy-washy boundaries then they are free to walk all over you; the results…you become a doormat. We have actually trained others to do this when we will allow people to wipe their muddy feet on us. After all, we are doormats.”

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Author:David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough

“When I learned about the gray existing between the black and white of absolute terms, I began to experience more peace. The more I expanded my gray areas (more than 50 shades), the more peace I experienced in my life.”

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Author:David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough

“You did not invent these family habits. Your family is like mine, for thousands and thousands of years our families have embraced a dysfunctional lifestyle, passing these habits as gospel on to subsequent generations. This was not done out of malice, spite, or hate, but what they knew best. As ineffective as these habits are, you never stopped to consider another way of loving.”

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“Black and white thinking limits understanding and feedback, two necessary ingredients for successful resolution in creative conflict and successful understanding.”

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“No one escapes some degree of chaos for it is so ever prevalent; it is the human experience. This realization does not mean we can’t improve. It does mean we can accept our state of chaos, lighten up on ourselves, have fun, and work on improving…we are a work in progress. Enjoy the journey.”

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Author:David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough

“Acceptance is the most beautiful word in any language; this beautiful concept can only exist when you allow other people to be who they are and do not imprison them with your definition of what is right, proper, correct, or other limiting criteria. Decreasing the black and white in your thinking allows for an expansive area of gray, allowing you to live your life and others to live there life. Acceptance sets us all free! This simple change of thought creates a wonderful space for happiness to thrive.”

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“The more severe the dysfunction you experienced growing up, the more difficult boundaries are for you.”

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Author:David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough

“Many of the habits of dysfunctional families use are not from the lack of love but are the result of fear. Knowing the love-limiting habits and behaviors of dysfunctional families is a wonderful beginning to lower the fear, allowing us to be real, allowing us all to learn how to love better.”

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Author:David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough

“What are humans meant to do; why are we here? Are we a mutation on the earth destroying its host? Are we a cancer destined to kill what supports us? I think not. So exploring this question is a powerful exercise in meaning; what is the meaning of human existence?”

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Author:David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough

“Honoring your word is the fiber from which trust is built.”

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“When you wear a mask, you are not real.”

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“People pay a dear price when not dealing with the powerful emotions.”

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“Putting labels on others creates a black hole of disregard where judgment thrives and schisms deepen.”

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“When someone obtains peace and serenity, this shines a bright spotlight on others’ own unhappiness making their discomfort even more apparent.”

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Author:David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough

“Many people look at their past and bemoan their mistakes. Those errors in judgment, behavior, hurting others, and the wrong decisions may be what consumes them now. It does not have to be that way, for recovering from a traumatic situation is all a matter of how we think about what happened. It is not so much about what happened to us as what we make of the circumstance.”

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