“Reality may not be what you want it to be, but it is the reality you now must face. You can deny this reality and try to wish it away, or you can accept it and not waste any energy on wanting it to be different.” LoveRealChangeAcceptanceShameRecoveryDenialDysfunctional Author:David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough
“When one person attempts to “fix it” for the other person, the connection of acceptance is snapped and the sender and receiver miss an opportunity for understanding.” LoveUnderstandingChangeAcceptanceShameChaosRecoveryJudgementFamiliesDysfunctional Author:David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough
“Shame is a powerful feeling. There is a tremendous difference between making a mistake and believing you are a mistake...If I don’t see myself as being a mistake then it is I who must take responsibility and I am not ready to accept that.” LoveResponsibilityFamilyShameChaosRecoveryDysfunctional FamiliesDysfunctional Author:David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough
“The more judgmental a person is the sadder they are.” LoveHappinessChangeShameRecoveryJudgementalDysfunctional Author:David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough
“The key problem I encounter working with wounded, depressed, and unhappy people is a lack of connection…starting from a disconnection from themselves and then with others. This is why love often becomes so distorted and destructive. When people experience a disconnection from themselves, they feel it but do not realize the problem.” LoveJoyChangeShameUnhappyRecoveryDepressedFamiliesDysfunctional FamiliesDysfunctionalDisconnectionChnageShame Recovery Author:David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough
“Consider letting go of the barriers between yourself and others, let go of the definition our culture has inflicted upon us and allow the best part of ourselves to connect with the wondrous parts of others. Allow yourself to connect in a deeper and more profound way.” LoveChangeShameRecoveryConnectionBarriersFamiliesWallsDysfunctional FamiliesDysfunctional Author:David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough
“When I learned about the gray existing between the black and white of absolute terms, I began to experience more peace. The more I expanded my gray areas (more than 50 shades), the more peace I experienced in my life.” LoveChangeShameRecoveryBlack And WhiteGreyFamiliesDysfunctionalAcceptence Author:David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough
“You did not invent these family habits. Your family is like mine, for thousands and thousands of years our families have embraced a dysfunctional lifestyle, passing these habits as gospel on to subsequent generations. This was not done out of malice, spite, or hate, but what they knew best. As ineffective as these habits are, you never stopped to consider another way of loving.” LoveJoyShameRecoveryFamiliesDysfunctional FamiliesDysfunctionalAcceptence Author:David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough
“No one escapes some degree of chaos for it is so ever prevalent; it is the human experience. This realization does not mean we can’t improve. It does mean we can accept our state of chaos, lighten up on ourselves, have fun, and work on improving…we are a work in progress. Enjoy the journey.” LoveJoyChangeProgressShameChaosRecoveryJourney Of LifeFamiliesDysfunctional FamiliesDysfunctional Author:David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough
“Many of the habits of dysfunctional families use are not from the lack of love but are the result of fear. Knowing the love-limiting habits and behaviors of dysfunctional families is a wonderful beginning to lower the fear, allowing us to be real, allowing us all to learn how to love better.” LoveJoyFearChangeShameRecoveryHabitsDysfunctional FamiliesDysfunctional Author:David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough
“What are humans meant to do; why are we here? Are we a mutation on the earth destroying its host? Are we a cancer destined to kill what supports us? I think not. So exploring this question is a powerful exercise in meaning; what is the meaning of human existence?” LoveChangeShameRecoveryMeaningIntrospectionFamiliesDysfunctional FamiliesDysfunctional Author:David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough
“...the state of perfection is an elusive goal; demanding something so obscure as almost unattainable and can become a compulsive, crazy making squirrel-on-a-wheel way of living.” LoveJoyPerfectionShameChaosFamiliesDysfunctionalAcceptenceCrazy MakingChange Recovery Author:David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough
“Many people look at their past and bemoan their mistakes. Those errors in judgment, behavior, hurting others, and the wrong decisions may be what consumes them now. It does not have to be that way, for recovering from a traumatic situation is all a matter of how we think about what happened. It is not so much about what happened to us as what we make of the circumstance.” LovePastJoyChangeShameChaosMistakesRecoveryTraumatic ExperiencesDysfunctionalAcceptence Author:David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough