“when a child is ridiculed, shamed, hurt or ignored when she experiences and expresses a legitimate dependency need, she will later be inclined to attach those same affective tones to her dependency. Thus, she will experience her own (and perhaps others’) dependency as ridiculous, shameful, painful, or denied. - Dependency in the Treatment of complex PTSD and Dissociative Disorders 2001 Authors: Kathy Steele, Onno van der Hart, Ellert R. S. Nijenhuis” NeedsShameParentingAshamedDeniedDependenceEmotional AbuseEmotional PainDependencySelf HatredSelf HateInternal ConflictNeedinessEmotional NeedsEmotional WoundsShamingEmotional NeglectNeedingInternal VoicesDependence And Attitude Author:Kathy Steele
“Complex structural dissociation involves an extensive range of phobias that exacerbate and maintain dissociation and impede functional adaptation. They include the phobia of (1) mental actions (i.e., an individual's inner experience of emotions, thoughts body sensations, needs, wishes); (2) dissociative parts of the personality; (3) attachment and attachment loss; (4) traumatic memory; and (5) change and healthy risk taking (van der Hart et al., 2006).” Dissociative Identity DisorderDissociationStructural Dissociation Author:Kathy Steele