“I don't know why people try to be friends with their exes. I mean, we were never friends, so why try after having decided that an intimate relationship isn't going to work? Friendships are intimate, too. You can't just, like, turn the connection down a notch and hope to make it better. It's still the same connection, and if it's faulty it's going to stay faulty.” RelationshipsHeartbreakBreak UpsA Room Called Earth Book:A Room Called Earth Source: A Room Called Earth
“It's difficult for women to be honest and direct because for centuries we were burned at the stake, or persecuted, or exiled, or rejected, or excommunicated, or divorced, or shamed, or socially excluded, for saying what we truly thought and felt. Now, we know how to act like we're being direct and forthright, when we're not, and we know how to seem uninhibited and free, when we're not, and we know how to appear helpless and damaged, when we're not. Deception is more ingrained in us than honesty.” WomenHonestyDeception Book:A Room Called Earth Source: A Room Called Earth
“In my mind's eye, I'm wearing golden armor, adorned with roses, and I'm riding a winged horse, and I can feel the wind on my face, and I can smell seawater in the air, and I'm wielding an enormous electric-blue sword, which is cutting through all of the delusions, and lies, and I'm galloping, and galloping, and slicing, and slicing.” ImaginationFantasiesDaydreams Book:A Room Called Earth Source: A Room Called Earth
“True respect requires communication, and creativity, and the integration of values that at first seem foreign, which then gain meaning as we come to understand and appreciate them.” ValuesCommunicationRespect Book:A Room Called Earth Source: A Room Called Earth
“I'm standing outside and so far I have nothing to say to anyone, and I like it that way because it makes me seem more interesting. It's amazing what not speaking can do for other people in terms of levels of interest.” SilenceNot Speaking Book:A Room Called Earth Source: A Room Called Earth
“It's strange to think that we're all here because someone wasn't killed at some point.” DeathLivingBeing Alive Book:A Room Called Earth Source: A Room Called Earth
“No matter how scary or intimidating a person may appear to be, we don't need to "protect" ourselves from them. As long as we can turn our experiences into love, there's no need to waste time and energy being frightened, or trying to stop things and people from coming in or going out.” ChangeMental HealthMoving OnStabilityRipBreakupsA Room Called Earth Book:A Room Called Earth Source: A Room Called Earth
“Because those who are seen to be physically perfect, symmetrical, handsome, and beautiful by society's standards are here to show us how to feel compassion for ourselves, while those who have physical difficulties are here to show us how to feel compassion for others.” CompassionBeautySelf CompassionBeautiful People Book:A Room Called Earth Source: A Room Called Earth
“People think that seeing is blaming. They assume that through articulating what's happening that they're being judged, and ridiculed, when they're actually just being seen. I don't mean to condemn. A scientist doesn't judge the organisms in a petri dish. Scientific experiments aren't about making the organisms right or wrong for doing what they're doing. It's about watching how they work, and getting to know how they behave and interact.” JudgmentSeeing PeopleObserving People Book:A Room Called Earth Source: A Room Called Earth
“I just like having something edible to look forward to.” FoodEating Book:A Room Called Earth Source: A Room Called Earth
“That's the best way to know anything, although no one ever tells you that. No one ever says, "Just use the expansive feeling in your chest to understand what's true, and what you want, and where to go, and what really matters," because they're too busy forcing you to learn from books that they're choosing, and pointing at whiteboards that they're writing on, and encouraging you to ask questions from curriculums that they've set.” LifeQuotesDestinyRelatableA Room Called Earth Book:A Room Called Earth Source: A Room Called Earth
“People are obsessed with what they don't allow themselves to have, and then they become controlled by it. Forbidden fruit is everyone's main meal.” ObsessionForbidden Fruit Book:A Room Called Earth Source: A Room Called Earth
“People are so attracted to what harms them. Being infatuated, and obsessed, and jealous, and tormented, and competitive, and longing for things, and wanting to possess people, and dying and killing for love, is deemed to be romantic, and sensual, and liberated. Yuck.” LoveObsessionInfatuation Book:A Room Called Earth Source: A Room Called Earth
“It's far easier to reel off lists of shops, and retreats, and job titles than it is to engage with the process of self-discovery, which isn't always easy to articulate and, sorry, it's just that we don't really have time to wait around for every little thought and feeling to be considered, expressed, and shared. There are more important things to be done and bought and planned for, and more important people waiting around who are more ready, willing, and able to be reduced to the confines of their stuff, and things, and shit.” Self DiscoveryMaterialismShallowness Book:A Room Called Earth Source: A Room Called Earth
“Focusing on our inner world has no social currency. I mean, no one is standing around waiting to congratulate us for stopping to feel how we feel, and to consider what we want, and to question why we choose to behave in certain ways. If anything, our doing this makes others uncomfortable.” FeelingsSelf DiscoveryInner World Book:A Room Called Earth Source: A Room Called Earth
“Energies and emotions affect physical reality just like sound, and gravity, and electricity, and music, and oxygen do. They breathe, and expand, and throb, and rush, even if we cannot name or understand them. It doesn't matter where we're from, or what we believe, or what language we speak. Millions of us are feeling and exact same way, right now, and we are united because of it.” FeelingsEnergyEmotions Book:A Room Called Earth Source: A Room Called Earth
“Parting ways with someone or something doesn't always make sense, so people often create reasons to be angry and resentful, because it weaves a stronger narrative around the process of letting go. That way, they don't have to take responsibility for their part in it, because, you know. So-and-so was just a bitch and shit.” LolBreakupsParting WaysA Room Called Earth Book:A Room Called Earth Source: A Room Called Earth
“Most people aren't cognizant of the fact that, in order to feel comfortable, they require others not to cry or do anything outside of the established code of conduct, which is an unspoken code of conduct, of course. Nevertheless, it must be adhered to, and implemented, through harnessing certain movements and non-invasive forms of eye contact, and it doesn't come naturally to me . . .” Code Of ConductSocial Codes Book:A Room Called Earth Source: A Room Called Earth
“It occurs to me that my sexuality is more fluid in my mind than it is in 3D. I often wish that my sexual desires were more malleable than they are. Being solely attracted to men sucks. It's like suffering from an irreversible case of Stockholm syndrome. I'm drawn to the very creature that has violated, oppressed, exploited, raped, kidnapped, subjugated, controlled, made fun of, manipulated, abused, belittled, objectified, persecuted, and condescended me and my people for centuries.” SexualityWomen S Sexuality Book:A Room Called Earth Source: A Room Called Earth
“I get so tired of being a woman, because I can never seem to be "done" in the way that others want to "do" me. I just want to take my body off, hang it on a hook, and grab some air, because every stroke, whisper, request, poke, brush, smile, squeeze, lick, kiss, and breath can feel like a fight for territory.” WomenWomen S SexualityWomen S Bodies Book:A Room Called Earth Source: A Room Called Earth
“I find that I have a much deeper appreciation for my fellow human beings when their mouths are shut.” Not TalkingQuietness Book:A Room Called Earth Source: A Room Called Earth