“Current conflicts and guilt about being a woman who is a mother and a person in her own right are a socially defined malaise, notan individual problem.... The conflict is not between being a mother and having a career; it is between nineteenth-century ideas about children and today's ideas about women.” ChildrenPersonsIdeasProblemTodayMotherIndividualWomenWorkCareersCenturyConflictGuiltCurrentsDefinedMen WomenBeing A WomanNineteenth CenturyBeing A MotherMalaise Author:Sandra Scarr
“Given Freudian assumptions about the nature of children and the biological predestination of mothers, it is unthinkable for mothers voluntarily to leave their babies in others' care, without guilt about the baby's well-being and a sense of self-deprivation. Mothers need their babies for their own mental health, and babies need their mothers for their mental health--a reciprocal and symbiotic relationship.” NeedsWellsChildrenSelfCareMotherGivenBabyGuiltMental HealthWell BeingAssumptionSense Of SelfUnthinkableDeprivationReciprocalPredestination Author:Sandra Scarr
“We know that babies develop as well in nonmaternal as in maternal care, as long as the care is of good quality. The issue is not who gives the care but the quality of that care,... The guilt trip is, in my view, a hangover of another era and of unacknowledged tactics to keep women in their proper place--at home full-time.” KnowsGivingWellsLongHomeCareViewsQualityIssuesBabyGuiltErasTacticsHangoverGood QualityGuilt Trip Author:Sandra Scarr
