“The best way of thinking of an attachment in my view, is to see it as the outcome of an interaction between two people, each of whom contributes to the quality of the relationship. Most parents can promote a secure relationship with a calm, pleasant, patient baby. Only particularly sensitive and patient parents can promote a secure attachment to a difficult baby.” PeopleThinkingWayTwoParentDifficultViewsQualityBabyPatientCalmBest WaySecureSensitiveOutcomesPleasantAttachmentInteractionWay Of ThinkingBonding Author:Sandra Scarr
“It is important for practical and psychological reasons to call any reasonably stable group that rears children a family.... The advantage of this view is that traditional and nontraditional families can all be seen to serve the interests of children. Children can also feel comfortable with an approved family form, even if it is not traditional.” IfsFeelsChildrenImportantReasonFormInterestViewsGroupsComfortableAdvantagePracticalsTraditionalPsychologicalStableApproved Author:Sandra Scarr
“Children are just different from one another, especially in temperament. Some are shy, others bold; some active, others quiet; some confident, others less so. Respect for individual differences is in my view the cornerstone of good parent-child relationships.” ChildrenDifferentIndividualParentDifferencesViewsQuietActiveShyTemperamentCornerstonesGood ParentParent ChildIndividual DifferencesParent Child Relationship Author:Sandra Scarr
“We know that babies develop as well in nonmaternal as in maternal care, as long as the care is of good quality. The issue is not who gives the care but the quality of that care,... The guilt trip is, in my view, a hangover of another era and of unacknowledged tactics to keep women in their proper place--at home full-time.” KnowsGivingWellsLongHomeCareViewsQualityIssuesBabyGuiltErasTacticsHangoverGood QualityGuilt Trip Author:Sandra Scarr
