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“How then can we account for the persistence of the myth that inside the empty nest lives a shattered and depressed shell of a woman--a woman in constant pain because her children no longer live under her roof? Is it possible that a notion so pervasive is, in fact, just a myth?”

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Lillian B. Rubin
Lillian B. Rubin

Lillian B. Rubin was a prominent American author in the field of sociology and women's studies, recognized for her influential works that delved into the complexities of gender, family, and society. Born on January 13, 1924, Rubin's career spanned several decades, during which she published numerous books and articles. She was a key figure in the development of feminist sociology, challenging and expanding traditional sociological theories. more

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