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“Because the perpetrators typically have little understanding as to why they are sexually assaulting children, they usually are unable to stop after the first assault. Abusive behavior continues until a crisis of some kind prevents further abuse.”

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Book:The Spirit Weeps, Characteristics and Dynamics of Incest and Child Sexual Abuse, With a Native Perspective

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“There is a much greater skepticism toward the memories of those who claim abuse than toward the memories of those who deny it.”

Repression Child Sexual Abuse Society Denial Repressed Memories Dissociative Amnesia Recovered Memories Trauma Memory False Memory Syndrome Memory Wars Traumatic Amnesia False Memory Syndrome Campaign

Book:Relational Remembering: Rethinking the Memory Wars

Source: Relational Remembering: Rethinking the Memory Wars

“Some alters are what Dr Ross describes in Multiple Personality Disorder as 'fragments'. which are 'relatively limited psychic states that express only one feeling, hold one memory, or carry out a limited task in the person's life. A fragment might be a frightened child who holds the memory of one particular abuse incident.' In complex multiples, Dr Ross continues, the 'personalities are relatively full-bodied, complete states capable of a range of emotions and behaviours.' The alters will have 'executive control some substantial amount of time over the person's life'. He stresses, and I repeat his emphasis, 'Complex MPD with over 15 alter personalities and complicated amnesia barriers are associated with 100 percent frequency of childhood physical, sexual and emotional abuse.' Did I imagine the castle, the dungeon, the ritual orgies and violations? Did Lucy, Billy, Samuel, Eliza, Shirley and Kato make it all up? I went back to the industrial estate and found the castle. It was an old factory that had burned to the ground, but the charred ruins of the basement remained. I closed my eyes and could see the black candles, the dancing shadows, the inverted pentagram, the people chanting through hooded robes. I could see myself among other children being abused in ways that defy imagination. I have no doubt now that the cult of devil worshippers was nothing more than a ring of paedophiles, the satanic paraphernalia a cover for their true lusts: the innocent bodies of young children.”

Source: Today I'm Alice: Nine Personalities, One Tortured Mind

“The themes that exercised the minds of survivor movements and their allies within the health and welfare professions generated a political project: how to revolutionise medical and judicial approaches to injured adults and children, how to raise awareness so that other people didn’t have to suffer the same, and how to understand, and then challenge, offenders who so love what they do to children that they can and must shut their minds to the feelings of children who have put their trust in them. P4”

Source: Stolen Voices: The People and Politics Behind the Campaign to Discredit Childhood Testimony

“Maternal absence, in one form or another, is always found in the background of the incest romance. Womens literature on incest generally treats the theme of maternal absence tragically. Mens literature trivializes it or treats it comically. And clinical literature tends to treat it judgmentally.”

Child Abuse Child Sexual Abuse Survivors Incest Child Rape Abusive Parents Parental Abuse Maternal Neglect

Book:Father-Daughter Incest

Source: Father-Daughter Incest

“Instead, incest occurs in families where there is a great deal of emotional isolation, secrecy, neediness, stress, and lack of respect. In many ways incest can be viewed as part of a total family breakdown. But it is the aggressor and the aggressor alone who commits the sexual violence.”

Child Sexual Abuse Incest Family Dysfunction

Book:Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life

Source: Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life

“One of the reasons a survivor finds it so difficult to see herself as a victim is that she has been blamed repeatedly for the abuse: "If you weren't such a whore, this wouldn't have to happen." Each time she is used and trashed, she becomes further convinced of her innate badness. She sees herself participating in forbidden sexual activity and may often get some sense of gratification from it even if she doesn't want to (it is, after all, a form of touch, and our bodies respond without the consent of our wills). This is seen as further proof that the abuse is her fault and well deserved. In her mind, she has become responsible for the actions of her abusers. She believes she is not a victim; she is a loathsome, despicable, worthless human being—if indeed she even qualifies as human. When the abuse has been sadistic in nature...these beliefs are futher entrenched.”

Child Abuse Child Sexual Abuse Abuse Survivors Incest Dehumanization Complex Ptsd Victim Blaming Child Sexual Abuse Survivor Complex Trauma Self Blame Child Sexual Abuse Survivors No Longer Human

Book:Counseling Survivors of Sexual Abuse

Source: Counseling Survivors of Sexual Abuse

“Be kind, for everyone you encounter is quietly healing unseen burdens.”

Life Inspirational Inspiration Motivational Motivation Kindness Positive

Book:The Light in the Heart

Source: The Light in the Heart

“The experience of childhood sexual abuse leaves some survivors with a high tolerance for pain. Dysfunctional environments require endurance and thick skin. Child survivors sometimes have to commit to sticking things out in order to survive. This pattern of tolerance follows you into adulthood. Instead of using pain as a signal to evaluate and change direction, you may use pain as a signal to try harder. Try harder to please someone. Try harder to control your children. Try harder to be a good friend. Try harder to be successful at a job that you hate. You remain in survival mode that you picked up as a child. Your high tolerance for pain keeps you committed to dysfunctional experiences and relationships that recycle pain from the past. Sometimes, the only way out of this cycle is time in isolation to learn what peace feels like. Sometimes you have to be willing to let go of everything in order to learn how to hold onto anything.”

Child Sexual Abuse Abuse Survivors Child Sexual Abuse Survivor Child Abuse Survivors Child Sexual Abuse Survivors Pain Tolerance

Author:Rosenna Bakari

“There is a slave trade still in this country—yes, the real and horrific sex and human trafficking trade run by organised criminal gangs, which is appalling and must be stopped. But there's the hidden slavery too of children exploited and used within their own families, within organised and ritual abuse.”

Source: Living with the Reality of Dissociative Identity Disorder: Campaigning Voices

“The shared secret and the shared denial are the most horrible aspects of incest.”

Child Sexual Abuse Incest Abusive Mother Abusive Father Incestusous

Book:Bradshaw on the Family: A New Way of Creating Solid Self-Esteem

Source: Bradshaw on the Family: A New Way of Creating Solid Self-Esteem