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“This chapter is about the large-scale, long-term context--the years of "no" messages--and the deep patterns of thinking and feeling they create, patterns that are reinforced and reiterated over decades of life. These patterns are emphatically not innate, but they were learned early. You began these lessons long before you were capable of thinking critically about whether you wanted them. And just as you learned them, you can unlearn them, if you want to, and replace them with new, healthier patterns that promote confidence, joy, satisfaction, and even ecstasy.”

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Book:Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life
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