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“I think most people are just trying to be happy, and that most of their actions, however misguided, are in line with that goal. Most people just want to feel they belong somewhere, want to be loved, and want to feel they're important to someone. If you really examine all the wrongheaded and messed-up things they do, they can most often be traced back to that basic desire. The abusers, the addicted, the cruel and unpleasant, the manipulators --these are just people who started this quest for happiness in the basement of their lives. Someone communicated to them through word or deed that they were undeserving, so they think they have to claw their way there over the backs of others, leaving scars and creating damage. Of course, they only create more misery for themselves and others.”

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Book:Sliver of Truth
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Sliver of Truth

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Lisa Unger
Lisa Unger

Lisa Unger, born on April 26, 1970, is a renowned American author known for her suspense and thriller novels. Her works, which often blend psychological analysis with supernatural elements, have gained widespread popularity among readers. more

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