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“Arik and Cadie always knew they wouldn't be one of those couples that let problems between them fester. They would immediately address any issues that arose, bring them out into the open, discuss them until they reached a mutually satisfactory conclusion. They felt bad for some of the Founders who they believed had unhappy marriages — couples who were not strong enough to be truthful and open with each other, and even worse, with themselves”

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Author:Christian Cantrell
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“اغلب اوقات ((استقلال)) داشتن را بی نیازی تعریف می کنند اما همان طور که گفتم استقلال می تواند به معنای داستن صلاحیت، شایستگی و‌ کاردانی در برآورده ساختن نیازها تعریف شود.”

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Book:After the Honeymoon: How Conflict Can Improve Your Relationship
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“در کتاب های خودیار به زنانی که نگران از دست دادن شوهران خود هستند توصیه می شود اسرارآمیزتر باشند و کاری کنند که رفتارشان قابل پیش بینی نباشد. به زن ها توصیه نمی شود نگرانی های خود را با شوهرشان در میان بگذارند. به جای آن به آنها می گویند که کاری صورت دهند. من مخالف راه های عمل گرا نیستم. خود من همیشه از این شیوه استفاده می کنم. روی هم رفته رو به رو شدن با مسائل ارتباطی دشوار است و هر اقدامی برای رفع این مشکل ارزشمند است. اما از آن جایی که این راه حل ها موقتی هستند اغلب موثر واقع نمی شوند.”

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Book:After the Honeymoon: How Conflict Can Improve Your Relationship
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“مسئله ی روابط زن و شوهر خود از دو مسئله ناشی می شود: (۱) خود مسئله و (۲) طرزی که درباره ی مسئله حرف می زنیم ( یا حرف نمی زنیم). طرز صحبت کردن یا نکردن شما درباره ی یک مسئله اغلب بخش عمده مسئله است.”

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Book:After the Honeymoon: How Conflict Can Improve Your Relationship
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“Soft power. When you need to speak up, be artful. Take care of your partner as best you can by explicitly cherishing them and your relationship. Start by letting them know you need repair, is this a good time? If your partner agrees to talk, thank them, start off with an appreciation - something you are thankful for that your partner has said or done, even if it's just that you appreciate their willingness to sit down and talk. Then state your intentions - a good thing to do generally: "I want to clear the air between us so that I can feel closer to you." Center yourself in your Wise Adult, prefrontal cortex, and remember love. Recall that the person you're addressing is someone you love, or at least care for, and in any case, you will have to live with them. Remembering love is a recentering practice. You're speaking to someone you care about in the hopes of making things better.”

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Book:Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship
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“Okay, so let's say you're the one hearing feedback from your partner - now what? Yield. Don't get defensive, or go tit for tat, or any of that Adaptive Child behavior. You, the listener, also need to be centered. You too need to remember love. What can you give this person to help them feel better? You can begin by offering the gift of your presence. Listen. And let them know they've been heard. Reflect back what you heard. If you're at a loss, just repeat your partner's feedback wheel. ... If you are the speaker, and the listening partner has left out important things or gotten something seriously wrong, help them out. Gently correct them, and then have them reflect again. But don't be overly fussy. Serviceable is good enough. Now that you've listened, you need to respond. How? Empathically and accountably. Own whatever you can, with no buts, excuses, or reasons. "Yes, I did that" - plain and simple. Land on it, really take it on. The more accountable you are, the more your partner might relax. If you realize what you've done, if you really get it, you'll be less likely to keep repeating that behavior. And conversely, not acknowledging what you did - by changing the subject, or denying, or minimizing - will leave your partner feeling more desperate. ... If you are the speaker, it pays to keep it specific. The feedback wheel is about this one incident, period. Most people go awry when they escalate their complaints, moving from the specific occurrence to a trend, then to their partner's character. For example: "Terry, you came late." (Occurence.) "You always come late." (Trend.) "You're never on time." (Trend.) "You really are selfish!" (Character.) When the speaker jumps from a particular event to a trend (you always, you never) to the partner's character (you are a ...), they render their partner ever more helpless, and each intensification feels dirtier. ... Once you've reflectively listened and acknowledged whatever you can about the truth of your partner's complaint, give. Give to your partner whatever parts of their request (the fourth step in the feedback wheel: what I'd like now) as you possibly can. ... And finally, for you both, let the repair happen. Don't discount your partner's efforts. Don't disqualify what's being offered with a response like "I don't believe you" or "This is too little too late." Dare to take yes for an answer. ... Let them win; let it be good enough. Com into knowing love.”

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Book:Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship
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“Focusing on your own relational practice optimizes our chances of making the relationship work, which is not the same as saying we always get what we want. Digest each other's imperfections, and grieve the things you wanted in your relationship that this partnership will not afford. Embrace what you do have, and allow it to be enough, to be an occasion for joy. These are the grown-up skills of intimacy: skills potent enough not only to transform your relationship but ultimately to heal and remake yourself.”

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Book:Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship
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“From fear, partners often say, think, and do things that harm the relationship, like defending, criticizing, or avoiding. Many couples have a way to talk through the inevitable disruptions that arise, but when the interactions repeat without resolution, monstrous negative cycles can develop that are difficult to reverse without help.”

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Book:The Spotlight of Love: Insights and Skills for Couples
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“There is something about Death Like love itself! If with some one with whom you have known passion, And the glow of youthful love, You also, after years of life Together, feel the sinking of the fire, And thus fade away together, Gradually, faintly, delicately, As it were in each other's arms, Passing from the familiar room- That is a power of unison between souls Like love itself!”

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Book:Spoon River Anthology
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